I admit this is not be easy, but it IS so necessary.
God made it very clear that the forgiveness we receive from Him depends directly on the forgiveness we extend to those who have hurt us…
Matthew 6:12 (NLT)
12 Forgive us our sins as we forgive those who sin against us.
And, after you have forgiven them, you must continue to forgive them OVER and OVER again when you think about what they did (or didn’t do) and it makes you feel angry, ashamed, stupid and hurt all over again. You must continue to forgive them in your heart to MAINTAIN your forgivenesss…
Ephesians 4:32 (NKJV)
32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ FORGAVE you.
So, think about the 3 people in your life who have hurt you the most. it may be…
or they may have hurt someone you truly love…
…you know what they did, or failed to do. You know how they let you down. Think about those 3 people.
Now, if you haven’t already…forgive them.
Make up your mind to release them from the guilt of what they did to you…even if they don’t feel guilty.
Then, ask God to help relieve the anxiety and pain that you experience when you think of what they did, or see them…or see something that reminds you.
1 Peter 5:7 (NKJV)
7 casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.
Psalm 94:19 (NKJV)
19 In the multitude of my anxieties within me,
Your comforts delight my soul.
I’m not minimizing the severity what they did to you, but God didn’t make a stipulation for that. He just commanded that we forgive.
I know it’s not easy. It may even seem impossible. But, this is where Philippians 4:13 is most powerful…
Philippians 4:13 (NKJV)
13 I can do all things through [a]Christ who strengthens me.
Now, think about those people that you have hurt as much as you’ve been hurt…do you need to ask for forgiveness?