The other day as my wife and I were getting ready for work, she asked me to get her clothes out of the dryer for her. We were both getting ready, but I stopped what I was doing and did it. The simplest gestures can be the most powerful, especially when both husband and wife are working.
Do something simple every day to make life easier for one another. Bring him a cool beverage. Watch something that she wants to watch…with her. Iron his clothes for him. Go shopping with her.
The following four gestures can make your marriage better. Nothing deep or romantic here, but doing it will make romance come easier.
1. HELP EACH OTHER OFTEN
2. DO WHAT COMES EASY
3. HONESTLY WORK ON WHAT’S DIFFICULT FOR YOU
4. BE PATIENT WITH WHAT’S DIFFICULT FOR ONE ANOTHER
Following these simple tips will make each day better, and difficult days more bearable.
1 Peter 3:1a (NKJV)
“Wives, likewise, be submissive to your own husbands…”
1 Peter 3:7
“Husbands, likewise, dwell with them with understanding, giving honor to the wife…”
Praise is so powerful. And, I’m not talking about using it as a tool of manipulation to get God to bless us, but I’m talking about a powerful way to BLESS HIM.
Psalm 34:1 (NKJV)
I will bless the Lord at all times;
His praise shall continually be in my mouth.
Yes, God wants to be blessed by us, just as much as we want to be blessed by Him. How can you bless God who has all power, possesses all things and has control of all things? The same way a baby blesses a parent when he or she reaches up to them.
Why does a baby reach up to his or her parent?
To get their attention…
To be picked up…
To be hugged…
God wants our affection. Our affection is a blessing to Him. Every parent wants to be ‘loved on’ by their children.
There are few things more affectionate, more intimate, more touching, more empowering, than a well-timed hug.
Have you ever had someone give you a warm affectionate hug? Without saying one word that sincere hug said “I love you!” “I’m so glad you’re in my life!” “I appreciate you!”
A hug is a beautiful way of saying that “We are one”.
Yes, we praise God with the fruit of our lips.
Yes, we praise God in a song.
Yes, we praise God through beautiful music.
Yes, we can even praise Him with a dance…
But, there is something special about lifting our hands up to Him in praise.
Lifting up our hands (just like that baby) is almost like we’re waving to get God’s attention, “Lord! Here I am! See me!?!”
Lifting up our hands is an act of surrender and letting go of what we are holding to reach out to Him.
Lifting up our hands is stretching them forward, just as our Lord, Yeshua Jesus Christ had His hands extended and stretched when He was nailed to the cross.
Lifting up our hands toward God is an expression of affection.
Our God so big that we can’t get our arms around Him, so it’s our way of giving Him a holy hug.
If we are alone it’s an intimate personal hug. If we are in corporate worship, it’s a powerful group hug.
So take some time today to love on our Heavenly Father. Lift up your hands to Him and bless Him with a Holy hug!
Look at how we are encouraged to let go of all wrath and all doubt and lift up our holy hands to the God of our salvation.
1 Timothy 2:8 (NKJV)
I desire therefore that the men pray everywhere, lifting up holy hands, without wrath and doubting;
We all notice the unmistakable silence of Yeshua, Christ Jesus from 12 years of age until 30.
Luke 2:41-52 (NKJV)
41 His parents went to Jerusalem every year at the Feast of the Passover. 42 And when He was twelve years old, they went up to Jerusalem according to the custom of the feast. 43 When they had finished the days, as they returned, the Boy Jesus lingered behind in Jerusalem. And Joseph and His mother[a] did not know it;44 but supposing Him to have been in the company, they went a day’s journey, and sought Him among their relatives and acquaintances. 45 So when they did not find Him, they returned to Jerusalem, seeking Him. 46 Now so it was that after three days they found Him in the temple, sitting in the midst of the teachers, both listening to them and asking them questions.
In His darkest moment, those closest to Him abandoned Him…
Then Jesus said to them,“All of you will be made to stumble because of Me this night, for it is written:
‘I will strike the Shepherd,
And the sheep of the flock will be scattered.’
But, I think that Jesus was cool with that. I know He wasn’t surprised. It was prophesied and He knew they would all scatter.
He knew Peter would follow, but far away. He knew he would deny Him three times to the point of cursing…
Then he began to curse and swear,saying,“I do not know the Man!”
Many times, in the comfort and conveniences of our 21st Century lifestyles, we will read about or hear in a sermon about the disciples scattering and deserting Jesus just before He went to the cross. We may even think to ourselves…
There’s nothing wrong with being recognized and awarded, but it can be a problem when we come to expect it. I was recently watching a Gospel music industry award show. The glitz. The glamour. The red carpet. The speeches… It almost seems like sometimes we’re saying, “The world has a red carpet, and we want one too!”
Here again, I’m not saying there is anything wrong with it, but we must be careful that those of us in Gospel aren’t conforming, but reforming.
Romans 12:2 (NKJV)
2 And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God.
And as I said, we also must be very careful that we don’t allow pride to slip in to the point that we EXPECT rewards, awards and recognition.
Has anyone ever told you that you’re too sensitive? Do you sometimes feel that you’re too sensitive…especially when someone has hurt you? When someone didn’t live up to your expectations? When you were legitimately wronged?
The world we live in now is becoming more and more harsh…more and more hard. It’s becoming accepted to view sensitivity as a weakness.
But, we are made in our Father’s image. As I often say, that’s less about how we look and more about our character. We are capable of having the attributes…the essence…the character…the personality of our creator.
I think that sensitivity is a spiritual check and balance. Sensitivity, when controlled, helps prevents hardening of the heart. It both leads to remorse and prevents wrath. It takes sensitivity to cool the anger on both sides of a disagreement. Sensitivity leads to both forgiveness and repentance. Sensitivity leads to reconciliation.
God intends for marriage to be a lifelong commitment between a man and a woman, no matter how much our modern society makes and accepts excuses to ‘get out of it’. Especially what we call ‘irreconcilable differences’ or ‘we’re just growing apart’.
Malachi 2:16 (NKJV)
16 “For the Lord God of Israel says
That He hates divorce,
For it covers one’s garment with violence,”
Says the Lord of hosts.
“Therefore take heed to your spirit,
That you do not deal treacherously.”
Matthew 19:4-8 (NKJV)
4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who [a]made them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’ 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’? 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore, what God has joined together, let not…
The book of Psalms is a treasure teaching us how to…
And celebrate the God of our salvation.
There are Psalms for when you are laying in your bed and
overwhelmed dreading facing the day.
There are Psalms for when you feel defeated.
There are Psalms for when you want to praise God but don’t
know what to say.
But, Psalm 20 is a song… a prayer… an encouragement for your success.
Read it bearing in mind that you can replace any reference to animal sacrifice with the word ‘praise’.
God reminds us that praise is our sacrifice, since we are to praise God so many times when we really are at our lowest and don’t feel like it…
Hebrews 13:15 (NKJV)
15 Therefore by Him let us continually offer the sacrifice of praise to God, that is, the fruit of our lips, giving thanks to His name.
Psalm 27:6 (NKJV)
6 And now my head shall be [a]lifted up above my enemies all around me; Therefore I will offer sacrifices of [b]joy in His tabernacle; I will sing, yes, I will sing praises to the Lord.
I like to call this Psalm of David a Psalm for your success. It’s a Psalm for..
For our deliverance.
For our purpose.
For the desires of our heart.
For our success.
Release it into the atmosphere and let it minister to you. God will bring it to pass.
Psalm 20 (NKJV)
May the Lord answer you in the day of trouble; May the name of the God of Jacob [a]defend you; 2 May He send you help from the sanctuary, And strengthen you out of Zion; 3 May He remember all your offerings, And accept your burnt sacrifice. Selah
4 May He grant you according to your heart’s desire, And fulfill all your [b]purpose. 5 We will rejoice in your salvation, And in the name of our God we will set up our banners! May the Lord fulfill all your petitions.
6 Now I know that the Lord saves His [c]anointed; He will answer him from His holy heaven With the saving strength of His right hand.
7 Some trust in chariots, and some in horses; But we will remember the name of the Lord our God. 8 They have bowed down and fallen; But we have risen and stand upright.
9 Save, Lord! May the King answer us when we call.
God is a forgiving God and He is willing to forgive us of
all our sins as long as we truly repent and have a forgiving heart towards
But, sometimes we can wonder if we will ever recover from
the consequences of our bad decisions.
Let me give you a quick reminder that God loves us and He is
bigger than or bad decisions.
Any parent who has punished or disciplined their child will
look on them in pity and remove the punishment or give them relief from the
consequences if It’s in their power to do so.
God does the same thing…
Psalm 30:5 (NKJV)
5 For His anger is but for a moment,
His favor is for life;
Weeping may endure for a night,
But [a]joy comes in the morning.
Psalm 103:9-11 (NKJV)
9 He will not always strive with us,
Nor will He keep His anger forever. 10 He has not
dealt with us according to our sins,
Nor punished us according to our iniquities.
11 For as the heavens are high above the earth, So great is His mercy toward those who fear Him;
So if you’re living out the consequences or results of a bad
decision and you have truly repented, pray that God deliver you from the
Pray that God gives you relief and peace. But, make sure you
pray that He does so to his glory and for His names sake…
Psalm 25:10-11 (NKJV)
10 All the paths of the Lord are mercy and truth,
To such as keep His covenant and His testimonies. 11 For Your
name’s sake, O Lord,
Pardon my iniquity, for it is great.
Psalm 143:11 (NKJV)
11 Revive me, O Lord, for Your name’s sake!
For Your righteousness’ sake bring my soul out of trouble.
Isaiah 48:8-10 (NKJV)
8 Surely you did not hear,
Surely you did not know;
Surely from long ago your ear was not opened.
For I knew that you would deal very treacherously,
And were called a transgressor from the womb.
9 “For My name’s sake I will [a]defer My anger,
And for My praise I will restrain it from you,
So that I do not cut you off. 10 Behold, I
have refined you, but not as silver;
I have tested you in the furnace of affliction.
Once I was driving at night and didn’t see a small ditch. I
drove right into it! I had to drive IN the ditch for a while until I could find
a place to drive out of it. Sometimes you have to remain in a ditch until you
can find a place to be pulled out our pull yourself out.
Even though you may remain in a ‘ditch’ because of you’re a bad
decision, God can pull you out.
But, let me give you a short encouraging reminder that not matter what you’ve done, God WILL forgive you. No matter how low you have gone, God can reach down and save you. He can even deliver you from the consequences of your sins, bad decisions and weaknesses.
Here is the one caveat. We must always come to Him in humility and never belittle or speak in disrespect or irreverently of His Holy Spirit…
Mark 3:28-30 (NKJV)
And remember, you don’t have to ‘curse’ or ‘cuss’ to do this. Be careful…