When we’re struggling with forgiveness, there’s nothing more powerful than a word of encouragement that reminds of God’s expectation to forgive, without diminishing how difficult it can be. We need to know that forgiveness and being forgiven is possible and given tools to work through the difficult process.

If you’re struggling with forgiveness or being forgiven, for your convenience, here are links to my most powerful BEBLESSTIFED articles on the many aspects of forgiveness.

I pray that one or all of my topics meet you at your point of need. To God be the glory!













We all have people in our lives that no matter what we do, they just don’t like us. They may even hate us. These people have become to be widely recognized by the urban colloquialism, ‘HATERS’.

Sometimes it may seem that your ‘haters’ have the upper hand on you. Their lies, their conspiring, their backbiting, their ignoring you, their tactics are rewarded at the cost of your reputation, your relationships, your success, or your peace. Always remember that we were saved only because Jesus’ haters were allowed to temporarily have the upper hand. In fact, He let them think he had won because His eye was on the big picture…

Hebrews 12:2 (NKJV)

2 looking unto Jesus, the [a]author and [b]finisher of our faith, who for the joy that was set before Him endured the cross, despising the shame, and has sat down at the right hand of the throne of God.

Joseph of Genesis was strategically placed in position to save his family through haters…

His brothers…

Genesis 37:4 (NKJV)

4 But when his brothers saw that their father loved him more than all his brothers, they hated him and could not speak peaceably to him.

Potiphar’s wife…

Genesis 39:11-15 (NKJV)

11 But it happened about this time, when Joseph went into the house to do his work, and none of the men of the house was inside, 12 that she caught him by his garment, saying, “Lie with me.” But he left his garment in her hand, and fled and ran outside. 13 And so it was, when she saw that he had left his garment in her hand and fled outside, 14 that she called to the men of her house and spoke to them, saying, “See, he has brought in to us a Hebrew to [a]mock us. He came in to me to lie with me, and I cried out with a loud voice. 15 And it happened, when he heard that I lifted my voice and cried out, that he left his garment with me, and fled and went outside.”

The truth is that God uses our ‘haters’ to help fulfill our purpose. They are designed to enhance and strengthen our relationship with God, to mature us, and to position us to fulfill His purpose for our lives.

So, I want to give you some quick encouragement for whenever you’re dealing with the haters in your life. I want to remind you that they treat you like they do because they actually see value in you…even though they may act as though they don’t



Exodus Chapter 1 quickly reminds us of why Egypt subjugated the children of Israel after being granted refuge there…

Exodus 1:8-12 (NKJV)

8 Now there arose a new king over Egypt, who did not know Joseph. 9 And he said to his people, “Look, the people of the children of Israel are more and mightier than we; 10 come, let us deal shrewdly with them, lest they multiply, and it happen, in the event of war, that they also join our enemies and fight against us, and so go up out of the land.” 11 Therefore they set taskmasters over them to afflict them with their burdens. And they built for Pharaoh supply cities, Pithom and Raamses. 12 But the more they afflicted them, the more they multiplied and grew. And they were in dread of the children of Israel.

Many times your haters treat you as they do because they are threatened by the anointing on your life. They are threatened by your influence over people. They are threatened by your gifts and talents. They are threatened and annoyed at your level of peace. The demons inside of them are aggravated by God’s spirit living inside you…

Luke 9:42 (NKJV)

42 And as he was still coming, the demon threw him down and convulsed him. Then Jesus rebuked the unclean spirit, healed the child, and gave him back to his father.

Jesus was crucified by people who witnessed and were threatened by His miraculous power and anointing. The sad thing is that they could have been healed, delivered and saved by that power if they had the right attitude.


Have you ever deliberately ignored someone as a child (or as an adult)? You put your hands over your ears and close your eyes saying, “Naaa Naaa Naaa Naaaa Naaaa, I can’t hear you!” Many times we can become frustrated because our ‘haters’, people of influence or those from whom we seek attention purposefully ignore us.

Remember this, you can’t ignore someone you don’t notice. Ignoring someone is a deliberate action. Ignoring someone is not the same as not noticing them. Not noticing is innocent, while ignoring is deliberate.

They next time you can clearly see someone is ignoring you, your gifts, your anointing rather than feeling annoyed…be flattered.


Have you ever felt as though you were being used? Many times your haters feel they can benefit from what you have to offer, so they try to manipulate, conspire, coerce, or take advantage of you to their advantage. This is a subtle, but obvious affirmation that they do see value in you. If they though you had no value, they wouldn’t even give you a second thought after noticing or encountering you. But, once you notice what they’re doing, you can use it to your advantage. When people think you’re naïve and your aren’t, they’re actually the one’s being naïve. Remember, God can use your enemies to put you into position for your purpose. Check out this link for more on this…THE BLESSING IN WHEN SOMEONE IS TRYING TO ‘USE YOU’…

So, be careful not to let the enemy to allow your ‘haters’ to provoke you outside of God’s character. They are actually a confirmation of the fact that you are His purpose driven child.

And, remember what our Lord and Savior, Yeshua, Christ Jesus said…
Matthew 5:44-48 (NKJV)
44 [a]But I say to you, love your enemies, bless those who curse you, do good to those who hate you, and pray for those who spitefully use you and persecute you, 45 that you may be sons of your Father in heaven; for He makes His sun rise on the evil and on the good, and sends rain on the just and on the unjust. 46 For if you love those who love you, what reward have you? Do not even the tax collectors do the same? 47 And if you greet your [b]brethren only, what do you do more than others? Do not even the [c]tax collectors do so? 48 Therefore you shall be perfect, just as your Father in heaven is perfect.




Yes we have faith in God, but what are we believing God for?

Many approach, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me” (Philippians 4:13) carnally. We fully believe that if we have the faith AS a grain of mustard seed we can move mountains (Matthew 17:20), but we can get caught up trying to move the wrong mountains.

There is so much power available to change our lives and the lives of others, but sometimes we SQUANDER OUR FAITH on material things, trying to ‘come up’, and bring glory to ourselves…on the wrong things.

Many of us struggle all of our lives the personal issues that hold us back…

Lack of confidence,

Low self-esteem,




Lack of motivation, etc….

You can look at some people and still see them as a child. You can tell who was the cry baby, who was the bully,…who took their toys or ball and went home when they didn’t get their way.

You can tell who was mistreated as a so-called ‘nerd’, and now they are over-the-top in proving I’m somebody or getting even.

We need God’s power to shape our character and attitudes so we can be used by Him. We need His power to be conformed into His image (Romans 8:29). There are so many people in the world who genuinely need help…






Christians being persecuted because of their faith,

Unbelievers in the one true and living God through faith in Christ.

But, unfortunately too many Christians focus ALL of their faith on THEIR own prosperity and glory. There’s nothing wrong with wanting good things in life, but our abundant culture and God’s grace and mercy has created a class of selfish, entitled Christians.

We can even approach giving selfishly. It’s taught selfishly. Christians are taught to GIVE SO YOU CAN BE BLESSED rather than GIVE SO YOU CAN BE A BLESSING. Too many Christians’ motivation to give is to get…it’s their BLESSING BILL. Some aren’t the least bit concerned with Kingdom work, they just don’t want God to ‘cut off their blessings’ just like an electric bill.

I’m not questioning your faith. Yes we have faith, we believe in God. We know what He can do, but what are we believing God for? God has given us the power to move mountains. He’s given us the power to change our world and the world around us. He’s given us the power to overcome who we were. Let us not squander our faith or use it selfishly, but use it to move the mountains in the lives of others rather than just ourselves.



I feel one of the most revealing and powerful facts in  scripture is that God has given everyone a measure of faith (Romans 12:3). Eventhough everone doesn’t believe in God, everyone not only has faith, but lives by faith,  and puts their faith in something, whether they believe it, or not. They just haven’t found the right fit for their faith.
 Hebrews 12:1 defines faith as the evidence of what we can’t see. 

Even those who don’t believe in God exercise and live by their measure of faith every day.



Every one begins the day not knowing what will happen, everyone sometimes trusts food they didn’t prepare , drives in a vehicle fully confident that it will stop when they’re ready. 

Unbelievers drive over bridges confident it will stand, work jobs in faith that they will get paid. 

Many people will take an umbrella when the weather forecaster calls for rain, even though the sun may be shining. 

Eventhough many don’t believe in the bible, unbelivers still put faith in knowledge and teaching of other people, believing their theories, facts and beliefs …everyone lives by faith. 

Our challenge as Christians is to help everyone put the faith that God gave them in Him. 

It’s God’s will that all come to the knowledge of Him, that all be saved, and that none should perish (2: Peter 3:9 and (1Timothy 2:4). 

God has equipped everyone with the capacity to believe in Him. Everyone puts their faith in something… 

It is our responsibility to help them find the right fit for their faith.





You don’t have to gain one more pound…

You don’t have to give away your body…

You don’t have to make one more charge…

Watch one more obscene video…

Make/answer one more call from ‘them’…

Sent or open one more text from ‘him or her’

Open one more email…

Send one more pic…

Take one more drink…

Smoke one more cigarette…

Curse one more time…

Waste any more energy…

Waste any more time…

Cheat one more time…

Spread one more rumor…

Start one more fight…

Make one more frivolous purchase…

Insult, backstab  or undermine one more person…

Quit one more job…

Be in one more clique…

Hold one more grudge…

Do ‘IT’ one more time (you know what you ‘IT’ is)…

God has given you the power and responsibility to stop today if you want to.

Philippians 4:13 (NKJV)

 13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.

Colossians 3:8 (NKJV)

But now you yourselves are to put off all these: anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth.

Ephesians 4:31

 31 Let all bitterness, wrath, anger, clamor, and evil speaking be put away from you, with all malice.

He has given you the tools to do it…

Matthew 17:20-21

 20 So Jesus said to them, “Because of your unbelief;[d] for assuredly, I say to you, if you have faith as a mustard seed, you will say to this mountain, ‘Move from here to there,’ and it will move; and nothing will be impossible for you. 21 However, this kind does not go out except by prayer and fasting.”

You STOP today if you REALLY want to!

Sometimes, the right thing to DO…is DON’T.





It comes so easily off our lips, but as spiritually noble as that sounds, there are some instances when you should not say, “I’ll pray for you”…


When you won’t do it…

How many times have you told someone you prayed for them, and whether you meant to or not, you didn’t do it. I find the best practice is to go ahead and pray right then and there.

When you don’t mean it…

How many times have you said I’ll pray for you because it was (SP) spiritually correct, but you never meant to do it. You weren’t being malicious, you just used it as a kind spiritual platitude…a nice cliché…it was right for the moment.

When you say it to belittle or insult someone…

Yep it happens, I have to admit that I have done it. Have you? When someone does something you don’t like, and it’s your way of saying, “I think you’re pitiful’.

Remember this…

God holds us accountable for every idle word we say…

Matthew 12:36 (NKJV)

36 But I say to you that for every idle word men may speak, they will give account of it in the day of judgment.

Especially if we are speaking or acting on His behalf or as intercessors…

Matthew 7:22-23 (NKJV)

22 Many will say to Me in that day, ‘Lord, Lord, have we not prophesied in Your name, cast out demons in Your name, and done many wonders in Your name?’23 And then I will declare to them, ‘I never knew you; depart from Me, you who practice lawlessness!’

Never turn, “I’ll pray for you” into a lie an insult or empty words.

Update: Here’s a similar post from another blogger…



Do you sometimes feel that God is unfair to you? 

Do you feel that He sometimes allows others to ‘get away’ with more than you? 

Do you feel He requires more of you than others? 

More disappointments?

More sacrifice? 

More suffering, more patience, more strength? 

Are there some people in your life of whom you expect more? You expect them to treat you better. You expect them to ‘have your back’, you expect them to have more patience with you and for you. 

You expect them to be more loyal, dependable, caring, loving? How does it make you feel when they aren’t? It’s okay when people who don’t know us let us down, but it’s different when those closer to us do…because of our RELATIONSHIP with them. 

Because of our relationship WE EXPECT MORE. 

That’s how God feels about you. Jesus says in…

 Luke 12:48, “For everyone to whom much is given, from him much will be required.”  

He loves you. He sent HIS only Son to die for you. He’s invested much into His relationship with you and He expects more. He’s invested His Son, grace, mercy, the anointing of His Holy Spirit into you. 

When we think life’s not fair, we must ask ourselves is it fair that Jesus had to die for our sins. You expect some people to be ‘ride or die’. You expect some people to put you first, you expect that some people don’t give up on you…because of your relationship with them.

I just want to remind US today, that’s what God expects of us. God didn’t expect Job to give up. Job’s affictions were not fair, but God knew Job could be trusted with them. They were severe, but they were temporary.

Be encouraged today. What ever you may be going through, even though it seems severe to you, remember that God trusts you with it, and it’s only temporary. He has invested His love into you. He has invested His purpose into you…so don’t give up on Him.



Aren’t you glad that God doesn’t take you out every time you fail? Are you glad that God keeps on blessing you even after you have tried, but fallen short. We should never take His grace and mercy for granted. 
God told Abraham that he through him all the nations of the world would be blessed (Genesis 12:3). God told him that He and his wife would have a son in his old age. God told all of this as Abraham and his wife approached 100 years old. The fact is, that when they were told both Abraham and Sarah laughed (Genesis 17:17, 18:12). It took around 25 years between Abraham’s call and his son Isaac’s birth. Even though you can read about all of this in Genesis in the course of an afternoon, those days and nights were as long as ours today. But, Abraham believed God and God honored that faith…
Genesis 15:6 (ESV)
And he believed the Lord, and he counted it to him as righteousness


God honors our faith today too. How many times have you really tried to do better, struggled with overcoming doubt and still fell short? The fact that it made you feel bad shows you have real relationship with God. Think about it. You felt bad even if no one else knew you fell short, because you disappointed God. We let me encourage you by reminding you that God made us and He knows us. He knows we are flesh

Psalm 78:32-39 (NKJV)

32 In spite of this they still sinned,
And did not believe in His wondrous works.
33 Therefore their days He consumed in futility,
And their years in fear.
34 When He slew them, then they sought Him;
And they returned and sought earnestly for God.
35 Then they remembered that God was their rock,
And the Most High God their Redeemer.
36 Nevertheless they flattered Him with their mouth,
And they lied to Him with their tongue;
37 For their heart was not steadfast with Him,
Nor were they faithful in His covenant.
38 But He, being full of compassion, forgave their iniquity,
And did not destroy them.
Yes, many a time He turned His anger away,
And did not stir up all His wrath;
A breath that passes away and does not come again.

Just like when Jesus’ disciples were with Him in the garden before His betrayal,and they fell asleep, He recognized that they were still WITH Him, even though He knew they would scatter.  God understands your heart. He understands that when your spirit is willing, sometimes your flesh gets weak…

Matthew 26:40-41 (NKJV)

40 Then He came to the disciples and found them sleeping, and said to Peter,“What! Could you not watch with Me one hour? 41 Watch and pray, lest you enter into temptation. The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh is weak.”

We must always remember to be as understanding as Jesus in our relationships with one another. Sometimes we find ourselves only celebrating success and accomplishments. But, just as God honors our faith, while encouraging growth, WE SHOULD ALSO APPRECIATE TRUE AND SINCERE EFFORT. This is what encourages us to keep on trying.



Some jobs are tough…really tough.

Tough environments…

Tough circumstances…

Tough cultures…

Tough situations…

Challenging fields and occupations…

They force interactions with…

Tough and sometimes dangerous people…

People whose goal is money rather than morality.

Some organizations have corrupt  cultures…

Some ooccupations exist to secure our safety.

I’m by no means diminishing the demands…challenges or dangers of any occupation, especially those that I don’t fully understand…

But, I don’t have to understand to know that God expects HIS people to remain in His character and integrity.

Psalm 25:21 (NKJV)

Let integrity and uprightness preserve me,
For I wait for You.

The apostles were sent by God to spread the Gospel of our Lord, Jesus Christ and start His church.

It was an extremely dangerous occupation. They were put in the path of violent and ungodly people on a regular basis.

The apostle Paul requested prayer knowing he was going to encounter people at their worst…but God still expected them to remain in His spirit of excellence.

2 Thessalonians 3:1-2 (NKJV)

Finally, brethren, pray for us, that the word of the Lord may run swiftly and be glorified, just as it is with you, 2 and that we may be delivered from unreasonable and wicked men; for not all have faith.

I sometimes hear people on certain jobs excuse profanity…obscenity…and disrespectful behavior by saying…

“Sometimes you have to get down to their level”…


“That’s what it takes to get the best out of people”…

Or even

“I’m trying keep him, her or them from being soft”.

If you feel that your job regularly or sometimes forces you to…









Commit adultery…

Facilitate or encourage the sin of others…


Regularly miss worship…

If you’re a Christian, then maybe it’s not the job for you.

I understand there are jobs that may put someone in the position to take a life to protect others…that’s not sin.

Think about your job…career…occupation.

Think about your tasks…responsibilities…expectations.

Think about what you have to do to be successful.

I hear so many people in my office use profanity, as if it makes them sound strong or confident.

I hear so many people use harsh words and behavior as if it were a necessary part of their job.

Can you think of a profession where profanity and disrespect are expected and even honored?

No matter what your occupation, God expects His people to set the standard of behavior…especially in difficult circumstances.

Colossians 3:23(NKJV)

And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men,




There’s thin line between narcissism and good health…between being healthy and vanity.

Between discipline and self worship…

Between keeping your temple healthy for God and provoking others to lust or envy…

Between putting in hard work and eating right and being lazy by wanting a ‘magic’ pill to do all the work.

There’s nothing wrong with exercise and eating right in an effort to be healthy and even look good, but we must be honest with ourselves about our motives.

What are you thinking about while you’re running…lifting weights…at the gym…taking that ‘weight loss’ pill? Are your thinking about how HEALTHY you will be or how SEXY you will be?

Do we put as much effort into making sure our spirit looks good to God as we put into making sure our bodies looks good in our clothes (or out of them)?

Yes, there’s a thin line between narcissism and good health.

Here’s Proof!

Think about the commercials and ads that you see and hear…

Companies spend millions of dollars on research to gain insights advertise on what’s important to consumers. What drives people? What provokes them to make a buying decision.

How many gyms, spas, fitness centers, diet plans, diet pills etc. do you hear advertising about BEING HEALTHY?

Most of the time their pitch is…

Look good!

Be sexy!

Look younger!

Sexy abs.

Sexy bun.

Sculpted arms.

You rarely if ever hear or see ads that say…

Get your blood pressure under control!

Reduce your cholesterol!

Surprise your doctor!

How about this one? How many times have you heard them simply say…

“Feel better!”

Most of the time they are trying to appeal to our sense of vanity.

God wants us to be healthy, as well as look healthy, but we must be very careful that we don’t let our society’s obsession with youth, looking good and being sexy pervert our motives.

We can’t let our workout routines and habits turn into our personal rituals of worshipping ourselves.

Remember what the bible says…

1 Timothy 4:8 (NKJV)

 For bodily exercise profits a little, but godliness is profitable for all things, having promise of the life that now is and of that which is to come.





As my wife and I move closer to our 31th anniversary, we realize that we have to make the most of every day! The bible tells us that as we live, each day can bring trouble and challenges…

Matthew 6:34 (NKJV)

34 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

Our challenge is to never let the day’s trouble define the memory of that day.

My wife and I challenge ourselves to FIND A WAY to enjoy every day. It’s not always easy, but…

The best way to overcome a bad memories is to replace them with good ones.

Today, I created what I hope will be a good memory for my sweet wife as I attempted to sing, “Three Times a Lady”, by the Commodores in French!

No matter what’s going on in your life today…find a way to make a good memory!

Ephesians 5:16  (NKJV)

16 redeeming the time, because the days are evil.





 1 Corinthians 10:1-11

10 Moreover, brethren, I do not want you to be unaware that all our fathers were under the cloud, all passed through the sea, 2 all were baptized into Moses in the cloud and in the sea, 3 all ate the same spiritual food, 4 and all drank the same spiritual drink. For they drank of that spiritual Rock that followed them, and that Rock was Christ. 5 But with most of them God was not well pleased, for their bodies were scattered in the wilderness.

6 NOW THESE THINGS BECAME OUR EXAMPLES, to the intent that we should not lust after evil things as they also lusted. 7 And do not become idolaters as were some of them. As it is written, “The people sat down to eat and drink, and rose up to play.”8 Nor let us commit sexual immorality, as some of them did, and in one day twenty-three thousand fell; 9 nor let us tempt Christ, as some of them also tempted, and were destroyed by serpents; 10 nor complain, as some of them also complained, and were destroyed by the destroyer. 11 Now all[b] these things HAPPENED TO THEM as examples, and they were WRITTEN FOR OUR ADMONITION, upon whom the ends of the ages have come.

The Old Testament introduced us to God… through Israel. We learn who He is, and since we’re made in His image we learn who we are. We learn His expectations. We learn how He reacts when we sin. We learn through what I like to call EXTREME EXAMPLES what He loves and what He hates through His interactions with Isreal. We learn that when we sin, before He gets angry – He’s hurt….as implied in Judges 2:1-2…

“Then the Angel of the Lord came up from Gilgal to Bochim, and said: “I led you up from Egypt and brought you to the land of which I swore to your fathers; and I said, ‘I will never break My covenant with you. 2 And you shall make no covenant with the inhabitants of this land; you shall tear down their altars.’ But you have not obeyed My voice. WHY HAVE  YOU  DONE THIS?”

Here God asks, “Why have you done this?”

Have you ever asked that to a loved one that hurt you?

Have you ever said that to a child before you punished them?

We learn God’s heart through His interactions with Israel. Through EXTREME examples of judgement we learn how much He hates some behaviors. We also learn through EXTREME acts of mercy and miracles what behaviors He loves.

Those extreme judgements are much like a police officer pulling over ONE speeding driver, when many are speeding. Every now and then they will have to remind drivers of the law by making an example of some drivers and not all.

Some say we don’t have those EXTREME judgements as in the Old Testament anymore…but don’t be too quick to assume so. Many of the natural disasters and calamities of TODAY could be God getting our attention and reminding us of His expectations.

As you read the history of the Old Testament, from now on as you read an EXTREME judgement  (such as the earth opening up and swallowing people in Numbers 26:10, or the destruction of Sodom and Gomorrah in Genesis 19) pay particular attention to the reasons God did it.

Pay attention to the behaviors that He was responding to.

Pay particular attention to what He calls abominations.

God doesn’t change, if He hated it then, He hates it now.




Don’t worry about tomorrow if you don’t trust God with today. 

There may be some reason that you aren’t looking forward to or may even be dreading tomorrow…. next week… or next month.  It could be because of challenges in your relationship(s), on your job, your health.

It could be that your paycheck will not be enough to take care of your obligations.

It may be a promise you made that you already know you can’t fulfill.

You may have robbed Peter and still don’t have enough to pay Paul. You may be separated from loved ones and support.

It may be the expected or the unexpected.

I’m not here to promise a miracle if you share this post.

I’m not even promising tomorrow will be better or even arrive.

God hasn’t promised us tomorrow…but He has given us today.

That’s why He said…

Matthew 6:34 (NKJV)

 Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about its own things. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.

If you have the strength or means to read this post or have it read to you, then God has abundantly blessed you.

In fact, no matter how much or how little money, food, clothing, strength or hope you have, He’s given you more than enough for today.

Those days in your past that you have dreaded, even if they were as ‘bad’ as you expected…you’re still here.

The truth is that God is sovereign to do what He pleases with each day and each person He made.

He loves us, and no matter how bad it may seem, He’s working all things together for our good…

Romans 8:28 (NKJV)

 And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.

The fact is either we trust Him or we don’t. Don’t worry about tomorrow if you don’t trust God with today.

If you’re worried about tomorrow… next week… or even next year…

SNAP OUT OF IT! And, make a conscious effort to do everything you can to enjoy every minute… every second… every hour of today.

Reach down inside and praise God and tell Him you love Him and trust Him with today.

If you don’t know what to say, I suggest…

Psalm 118:24 (NKJV)

This is the day the Lord has made;
We will rejoice and be glad in it.




Leaders, especially spiritual leaders , are very highly scrutinized and often criticized if they ‘don’t have it all together’. We can find ourselves expecting them to be near perfect. But, when we read our bibles, we find that many of God’s most anointed…those whom He gave great responsibility were lacking in many areas.

Moses and the Apostle Paul weren’t the greatest speakers.

Exodus 4:10 (NKJV)

10 Then Moses said to the Lord, “O my Lord, I am not eloquent, neither before nor since You have spoken to Your servant; but I am slow of speech and slow of tongue.”

2 Corinthians 11:6 (NKJV)

Even though I am untrained in speech, yet I am not in knowledge. But we have been thoroughly manifested among you in all things.

Eli the anointed High Priest and Judge had corrupt, disobedient sons (1 Samuel 3).

1 Samuel 3:13  (NKJV)

13 For I have told him that I will judge his house forever for the iniquity which he knows, because his sons made themselves vile, and he did not restrain them.

Peter was quick to speak before he thought, and was even rebuked by Paul for being a hypocrite to the point that it influenced other leaders.

Galatians 2:11-13(NKJV)

11 Now when Peter had come to Antioch, I withstood him to his face, because he was to be blamed; 12 for before certain men came from James, he would eat with the Gentiles; but when they came, he withdrew and separated himself, fearing those who were of the circumcision. 13 And the rest of the Jews also played the hypocrite with him, so that even Barnabas was carried away with their hypocrisy.

Just because one is anointed by God doesn’t mean that he or she doesn’t need any help. Every great leader needs a strong support system. They need to be surrounded by gifted, anointed people they can trust to delegate responsibility and help with their weaknesses. I think that’s God’s system of checks and balances.

We sometimes see charismatic, polished and sometimes affluent leaders and assume they have ‘it all together’ and that we could never qualify for leadership in God’s Kingdom because of our personal issues and weaknesses.

But, let me assure you that all leaders…


It’s easy to confuse charisma for anointing or confidence. Many great leaders are soft-spoken and reserved. There are many of charismatic leaders who can motivate a crowd but have absolutely no vision. There are others who have the WRONG vision and can motivate millions to do the wrong thing. Never confuse charisma with anointing. Check out this post for more on that… 4 WAYS TO TELL THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN PREACHING & A PERFORMANCE….


The ability to manage money can either be a gift or an acquired discipline. For those of whom that it doesn’t come so naturally, they can struggle with the discipline, detail and organization it takes to be a great money manager. Remember how one of the devoted prophets in the Old Testament died in poverty leaving his sons to be sold into slavery…

2 Kings 4:1 (NIV)

4 The wife of a man from the company of the prophets cried out to Elisha, “Your servant my husband is dead, and you know that he revered the Lord. But now his creditor is coming to take my two boys as his slaves.


Here again some people are more naturally inclined to be organized. They pay great attention to detail. They are uneasy when things aren’t in place. They even organize things in their minds as they observe them, while others struggle to be organized. They make a sincere effort, but slowly find themselves slipping into their old habits. Notice how the rich nobleman in Luke 16:1-13 had a shrewd manager hired to manage his affairs.


Yes, I know what the bible says…

1 Timothy 3:4-5 (NKJV)

one who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence (for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God?)

…and this is not a contradiction. I had a friend tell me that his dad, a very sincere, devout man of God resigned as a deacon because his son, (my friends brother) was addicted to  drugs and in and out of jail. Well, the devil found out how to move a great leader out of the way. We are all God’s children and we don’t always behave as He commands us, does that mean that He’s not a good Father? Does that mean that God is not a good leader? No! God set’s the standard of behavior and doesn’t waver. He tells us, “NO!” to certain things. It’s up to us to love and respect Him enough to obey. That’s what God expects us to do…set the rules and boundaries in the home. To say, “No!” and don’t waver. As mentioned earlier, Eli, a great man of God, didn’t restrain his sons in 1 Samuel Chapters 2 and 3. But, he was still highly respected and used by God.


Any stromg leader will tell you that leadership itself is a challenge to marriage. Responsibilities sometimes force the leader to choose between his or her spouse and duties. Leadership cuts into quality time, occupies the leaders mind during personal time, and even sometimes affects the desire for intimacy. It was obvious that ministry took some apostles a way from their wives, which is sure to put a strain on marriage…

1 Corinthians 9:5 (NKJV)

 Do we have no right to take along a believing wife, as do also the other apostles, the brothers of the Lord, and Cephas? 


Of course God expects leaders to honor their commitments and responsibilities…

Psalm 37:21 (NKJV)

21 The wicked borrows and does not repay,
But the righteous shows mercy and gives.

But, when responsibilities aren’t met, it not always due to intentional carelessness. It’s not necessarily because of over extending, but sometimes life happens. Sometimes illness, job loss, an unwanted divorce and other things beyond the leaders control can happen damaging his or her credit.



Jesus Himself was troubled in the garden the night before He went to the cross.

John 12:27 (NKJV)

27 “Now My soul is troubled, and what shall I say? ‘Father, save Me from this hour’? But for this purpose I came to this hour.


Sometimes we don’t expect our leaders to be visibly troubled by circumstances. But, that only shows their humanity. If Jesus Himself was troubled, the greatest leader of them all, then surely we will be too.

These are only a few of the reasons is why good leaders should be honest with themselves and aware of their natural weaknesses, so they can surround themselves with the right support to carry out their vision. They must also be confident enough in themselves to not be threatened by their support, but have the discernment to know who may actually be a threat to their leadership.

And, those whom they lead must be humble enough to follow in spite of their weaknesses, offering help towards the vision where possible. They must also realize that some weaknesses don’t disqualify the leader from leading. For example, the prophet Nathan didn’t tell David that he wasn’t qualified to be king after murder and adultery. (1 Samuel 12)

 Leaders are only human, and they will all have lapses in character, but overall they must be…



Calm in Crisis…

One who unites rather than divides…

One who resolves conflict…

And, most of all led by God and a student of His word.

Remember, God uses imperfect people to carry out His perfect will. All good leaders need good help.





When Jesus’ eyelids grew heavy

From carrying the weight of the world…

Did He dream…

…of returning to His heavenly home?

…that everyone would accept His precious gift?

Did He fantasize about the joys of a wife and family?

Did He dream of salvation without the cross?

Or, were His nightmares that He would be left down here in this mess?

If we felt it…He felt it.

As we were tempted…He was tempted.

If we endured it…The Lord endured it.

When He submitted Himself to the weakness of our flesh…

He had to hunger.

He had to thirst.

He had to hurt.

He had to hope.

He had to dream…

What do you think the Son of God dreamed about?

You? Me? Eternity?

 Hebrews 4:15 (NKJV)

15 For we do not have a High Priest who cannot sympathize with our weaknesses, but was in all points tempted as we are, yet without sin.




In Matthew 6:25-34 Jesus doesn’t only ENCOURAGE that we DON’T WORRY…He COMMANDS that we DON’T WORRY.

Worry damages our…





and Worship.
Worry is like kryptonite to faith.

Worry is the water that can extinguish the fire of our faith.

Worry is a sign of lack of faith, and the lack of faith, and a lack of faith is a sign there is a lack of trusting in God which disappoints Him.

Our spirits aren’t at peace when we worry, in fact, worry is a state of DIS-EASE. Worry is a spiritual disease that we ALLOW to plague our souls.

It’s a spiritual disease that can cause physical harm. Worry produces unnecessary stress. It has even been medically proven that stress weakens the immune system ( and has an adverse affect on our health.

Worry is a huge distraction to our worship. Just as two bodies of mass can’t occupy the same place at the same time, we can’t think about two things at the same time.


How many times has worry distracted your worship?

How many beautiful days have you needlessly wasted worrying?

What did worrying change?

Jesus even says in…

Matthew 6:27, (NKJV)

“Which of you by worrying can add one cubit to his stature?”(NKJV).

And,  the New International Version even says, “Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?”

The next time you begin to worry…immediately begin WORSHIPING and PRAISING GOD.

Tell Him you trust Him, tell Him you love Him, and you know all things are working TOGETHER  for your good (Romans 8:28).

Don’t let worry steal your…






or Worship!

Worship is the cure for worry…

Let’s touch and agree in the Spirit of God today against the spirit of worry in the name of Yeshua, the Son of God!




What if God gave you unlimited financial resources…what would you do?

What good would you do?

Who would you help?

What if God gave you a voice…a platform to speak to the world?

What would you say?

What causes would you speak out for?

How responsible would you be?

What if you had unlimited free time?

No job to report to?

No clock to punch?

What would you do with your time?

How would you spend it?

You can tell what you WOULD DO THEN by WHAT YOU’RE DOING with the financial resources you have now, whether it’s little or much.

Even if you’re living paycheck to paycheck, you have the means to help someone in need…your $5 gift or meal can change someone’s world.

You can tell by what you’re doing with your platform now.

What do you say? What don’t you say. What you post or publish? Which conversations to ‘speak up’ and which do you remain silent. How responsible are you with your voice now? Do you speak or post without thinking… praying?

What you’re doing with the time you have now? Do you say you don’t have time? Or, is it that you just don’t TAKE time?

There’s much Kingdom work that takes place through people who have no more free time than you…they just make time.

More money…More influence…and more time only empowers us to be more of who we already are.

Luke 21:1-4 (NKJV)

And He looked up and saw the rich putting their gifts into the treasury, and He saw also a certain poor widow putting in two mites. So He said, “Truly I say to you that this poor widow has put in more than all; for all these out of their abundance have put in offerings for God, but she out of her poverty put in all the livelihood that she had.”




Sometimes we have people who don’t like us, just because they don’t want to like us.
Sometimes we have people who go as far as to work against us or undermine our efforts.

Sometimes people talk about us behind our backs, whether we do good or bad.

Many of these people don’t like us, even though we have done nothing to them…we call these people HATERS.

People even pray that God give them vindication from their haters…

Psalm 25:2(NKJV)

O my God, I trust in You;
Let me not be ashamed;
Let not my enemies triumph over me.

But, when we’re honest with ourselves, we have given some of our HATERS as good reason to dislike us.

Yes, God expects us to be loving, and God expects us to be forgiving, but God also commands that we don’t be an offender or a ’stumbling block’ to others (Matthew 18:6,1 Corinthians 8:9).

We all have let others down.

We all have hurt others.

We all have done things we are ashamed of…

We all have offended others. There are some people who feel they were better off if they hadn’t met us.

We’ve all been the antagonist in someone else’s story.

King David was a man after God’s on heart, and he killed for a man for his wife.

Paul was an apostle to the Gentiles..after he was well-known for persecuting the church and consented to the death of Christians.

You can be sure that even after they repented of their sin…even after there was far behind them, they still had people and haters who were affected by their sin.

Haters will hate, and even though they are wrong to hold a grudge, we must be sensitive to the way the feel…let’s be sensitive to the fact that we’re the source of their attitude or actions.

And, if need be we MUST seek their forgiveness. After that, it’s between them and God.




For those of you who don’t know, not only do I blog, but I write songs for my wife who is Gospel/Jazz artist, Mechelle Johnson. She also sings classic R&B covers of many of the songs that make up the soundtrack of our 30-plus year marriage with her group, Natural Elegance. It’s part of our marriage ministry (Google SONday Blessing videos) that encourages strong, healthy, joyous Godly marriages between a man and woman. Our motto is…

You minister to the soul with a Gospel song, but you minister to a marriage with a love song!

We are based in a suburb of Memphis TN, and I must say that except for our very supportive church family at Oak Spring Church and a few others, we have gotten very little support from the ‘church community’. However, we have gotten MUCH SUPPORT from the local non-church community, and on radio in different cities throughout the country. I like to call it Matthew’s House ministry, reaching people beyond the ‘four walls’ of the physical church building…

Matthew 9:10-12 (NKJV)

10 Now it happened, as Jesus sat at the table in the house, that behold, many tax collectors and sinners came and sat down with Him and His disciples. 11 And when the Pharisees saw it, they said to His disciples, “Why does your Teacher eat with tax collectors and sinners?” 12 When Jesus heard that, He said to them, “Those who are well have no need of a physician, but those who are sick.

Soooo, I said all that to say this…

I see so many Gospel artists and ministers, both locally and nationally either whining and complaining on social media about not getting support or begging for people to vote for them to receive awards.

Let me say this very lovingly…


If you are faithful with your message, God will promote you in His timing.

He will make sure that the people He wants to receive your message…get it.

The apostles never whined about their message not being received. They never whined about not getting supported, and they definitely never begged for awards. On the contrary, they were blessed to get out of town alive sometimes. They often did not have a ‘captive’ audience. They even celebrated when they were beaten for the Gospel…

Acts 5:41 (NKJV)

41 So they departed from the presence of the council, rejoicing that they were counted worthy to suffer shame for His[a] name.

We must be honest with ourselves as artists, musicians, singers, preachers, teachers, ministers, writers, and yes bloggers…

Do we want influence for the sake of God’s kingdom or recognition and celebrity?

Do we want awards or do we want to inspire people and save souls?

Do we want to bring glory to our name or God’s name?

Of course, it’s natural to want recognition and to even be paid well for your efforts, but if it’s truly a ministry for you, then you can’t be disappointed and ready to quit if you don’t receive it.

And, you definitely don’t want to be caught whining and complaining. It weakens the cause of Christ.

Yes, I would love to sustain my family well and be recognized with my writing, our music and sharing what God has placed on my heart, and the bible supports that…

1 Corinthians 9:14 (NKJV)

14 Even so the Lord has commanded that those who preach the gospel should live from the gospel.

Galatians 6:6 (NKJV)

6 Let him who is taught the word share in all good things with him who teaches.
Proverbs 18:16 (NKJV)

16 A man’s gift makes room for him,
And brings him before great men.

But, if you don’t get the attention that you feel you deserve, God allows us to have our private human moments between ourselves and Him, just as the psalmists did in so many of the lamenting Psalms.

Please don’t publish your woes on social media and chastise the people who you feel are ignoring you.

Stop complaining and begging for support. When people value what God has placed inside you, you don’t have to beg them to listen to you, watch you, or read what you have to share.

I know it get’s frustrating sometimes. Of course, I’ve been guilty of whining and complaining sometimes myself.

Remember the sharp encouragement in Hebrews Chapter 12…

Hebrews 12:12  (NKJV)

12 Therefore strengthen the hands which hang down, and the feeble knees,

Have your private moment between you and God…

Thank God for trusting you with His word and your gift and…

Preach on!

Teach on!

Sing on!

Play on!

Write on!

Even if you think no one is listening.

If you bless just one person…that’s good fruit, and good seed in good soil.


Work your ministry.

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WHINING IS A CALM TANTRUM (From my archives)…




Have you ever noticed that sometimes God will allow you to be overwhelmed? Sometimes He will allow you to be in a situation that is 100% totally beyond your control. He will allow you to be confronted with an enemy, an adversary, a rival…with resistance so powerful that you feel totally POWERLESS.

It may be your job. It may be your health. It may be a challenge to your finances. It may even be abuse or persecution that you did not even provoke.

In 2 Chronicles Chapter 20 King Jehoshaphat and Judah were confronted by a powerful alliance of enemies – and he was afraid…

2 Chronicles 20: 1-4 (NKJV)

It happened after this that the people of Moab with the people of Ammon, and others with them besides the Ammonites,[a] came to battle against Jehoshaphat. Then some came and told Jehoshaphat, saying, “A great multitude is coming against you from beyond the sea, from Syria;[b] and they are in Hazazon Tamar” (which is En Gedi). And Jehoshaphat feared, and set himself to seek the Lord, and proclaimed a fast throughout all Judah. So Judah gathered together to ask help from the Lord; and from all the cities of Judah they came to seek the Lord.

He knew that the enemy was too powerful for him, so he immediately reached out to God, and petitioned that the people reach out to God as one…

Vs. 5-13

Then Jehoshaphat stood in the assembly of Judah and Jerusalem, in the house of the Lord, before the new court, and said: “O Lord God of our fathers, are You not God in heaven, and do You not rule over all the kingdoms of the nations, and in Your hand is there not power and might, so that no one is able to withstand You? Are You not our God, who drove out the inhabitants of this land before Your people Israel, and gave it to the descendants of Abraham Your friend forever? And they dwell in it, and have built You a sanctuary in it for Your name, saying, ‘If disaster comes upon us—sword, judgment, pestilence, or famine—we will stand before this temple and in Your presence (for Your name is in this temple), and cry out to You in our affliction, and You will hear and save.’ 10 And now, here are the people of Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir—whom You would not let Israel invade when they came out of the land of Egypt, but they turned from them and did not destroy them— 11 here they are, rewarding us by coming to throw us out of Your possession which You have given us to inherit. 12 O our God, will You not judge them? For we have no power against this great multitude that is coming against us; nor do we know what to do, but our eyes are upon You.”

13 Now all Judah, with their little ones, their wives, and their children, stood before the Lord.

God heard the people and told them that they didn’t even have to fight in this battle. He told them the battle wasn’t theirs but His and,

He told them He would fight for them!!!!

Vs. 14-17

14 Then the Spirit of the Lord came upon Jahaziel the son of Zechariah, the son of Benaiah, the son of Jeiel, the son of Mattaniah, a Levite of the sons of Asaph, in the midst of the assembly. 15 And he said, “Listen, all you of Judah and you inhabitants of Jerusalem, and you, King Jehoshaphat! Thus says the Lord to you: ‘Do not be afraid nor dismayed because of this great multitude, for the battle isnot yours, but God’s. 16 Tomorrow go down against them. They will surely come up by the Ascent of Ziz, and you will find them at the end of the brook before the Wilderness of Jeruel. 17 You will not need to fight in this battle. Position yourselves, stand still and see the salvation of the Lord, who is with you, O Judah and Jerusalem!’ Do not fear or be dismayed; tomorrow go out against them, for the Lord is with you.”

God fought for them that day. The only weapon they used was praise!

Vs. 21-23

21 And when he had consulted with the people, he appointed those who should sing to the Lord, and who should praise the beauty of holiness, as they went out before the army and were saying:

“Praise the Lord,
For His mercy endures forever.”[c]

22 Now when they began to sing and to praise, the Lord set ambushes against the people of Ammon, Moab, and Mount Seir, who had come against Judah; and they were defeated. 23 For the people of Ammon and Moab stood up against the inhabitants of Mount Seir to utterly kill and destroy them. And when they had made an end of the inhabitants of Seir, they helped to destroy one another.

This is a beautiful example of how God will allow His people to be feel powerless, so we can lean on Him, and Him only and allow Him to fight for us!

Is there a situation in your life that has left you feeling powerless?

God hasn’t ‘left’ you at all. He wants to prove He’s right there. Give it to Him! Lift up your hands and praise Him with what I like to call, “The Battle Cry of Praise”…

“Praise the Lord, for His mercy endures forever!!!!”

You aren’t powerless. Praise God, and let Him fight for you.

Remember this…

2 Corinthians 12:8-10 (NKJV)

Concerning this thing I pleaded with the Lord three times that it might depart from me. And He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” Therefore most gladly I will rather boast in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me. 10 Therefore I take pleasure in infirmities, in reproaches, in needs, in persecutions, in distresses, for Christ’s sake. For when I am weak, then I am strong.




Be careful how you respond to everyone today. Those who smile…Those who frown…Those who treat you with respect…Those who snap at you unfairly…

Those who walk by with without speaking…

Those who want to be left alone…Those who won’t seem to leave you alone…

You never know what people are going through

You don’t know what someone is struggling through WITHOUT drugs, alcohol, bad relationships, resorting to crime…

You don’t know what people are going through. What family, financial or personal struggle they are enduring. You don’t know what devastating news they just received. What physical, emotional or psychological pain or abuse they are enduring.  You don’t know what they have ‘given to the Lord to handle’. And, you don’t know when they aren’t strong enough to give it to Him yet.

Everyone doesn’t react to stress, trouble, pain, resistance or negativity the same. Some people just don’t handle it well. In fact, we all have those moments.

That’s why…

No matter what, your reaction to them is crucial.

You could be the person God put in their path to let them know He still loves them and is there for them. Or, you could be the person that leads to their downward spiral…your reaction.

That’s why we should always react with love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.

Sound familiar?

Galatians 5:22-23 (NKJV)

22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.

When we are led by God’s spirit, we breathe life into every environment that we occupy. Your reaction according to the Fruit of His Spirit can diffuse the influence of the enemy. And, even if it doesn’t change the situation immediately, it will plant a seed of God that may take root and grow later.

Remember this…

Proverbs 15:1 (NKJV)

A soft answer turns away wrath,
But a harsh word stirs up anger.






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