Most of us have heard the account of Jacob and Esau. Esau sold his birthright to Jacob, his twin brother. Later Jacob, along with the help of their mother, deceived Isaac, their father, to steal Esau’s blessing of the firstborn (Esau came from the womb first).
Esau was devastated when he discovered his father had been manipulated to give his blessing to Jacob. Not only was he pissed off at his brother for lying, but he was angry at his father for not having another blessing for him.
So, to spite Isaac, Esau married a woman that he knew would be displeasing to his father…
Genesis 28:6-9 (NKJV)
6 Esau saw that Isaac had blessed Jacob and sent him away to Padan Aram to take himself a wife from there, and that as he blessed him he gave him a charge, saying, “You shall not take a wife from the daughters of Canaan,” 7 and that Jacob had obeyed his father and his mother and had gone to Padan Aram. 8 Also Esau saw that the daughters of Canaan did not please his father Isaac. 9 So Esau went to Ishmael and took Mahalath the daughter of Ishmael, Abraham’s son, the sister of Nebajoth, to be his wife in addition to the wives he had.
This is a scenario most, if not all, parents can relate to. You have forbidden your child to do something, and they do exactly what you told them NOT to do, or something even worse.
As a parent, it first hurts then it makes you extremely angry. This happens both when the child is your dependent and when they are adults.
WHAT DO YOU DO?
Before you do anything… Before you discipline your younger children, or before you write your older children out of your will (Lol) there is one thing you should ALWAYS do….
Pray and ask God to forgive them even when they are still being disrespectful.
We all know what God demands of children in regard to their relationship with parents…
Exodus 20:12 (NKJV)
12 “Honor your father and your mother, that your days may be long upon the land which the Lord your God is giving you.
Ephesians 6 (NKJV)
6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. 2 “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: 3 “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”
When your child disrespects you in any kind of way, the very first thing you need to do is PRAY FOR GOD TO FORGIVE THEM OF THEIR SIN AGAINST YOU!
Notice that when the Prodigal Son disrespected his father by asking for and squandering his inheritance, the father had a forgiving heart the entire time and kept his arms wide open to welcome his son’s return and repentance (Luke 15:11-32). No doubt, he was praying for his son the entire time.
God often gives parents an opportunity to empathize with Him. He often gives parents a horizontal example (parent/child) of our vertical relationship with Him. So, when our children do things to spite us, disrespect us, disobey us as parents, sometimes even putting us to open shame, we can understand how God feels when we as His children do things to spite, disrespect, disobey and put Him to open shame.
We must do the same thing that God does. Be ready to forgive, and always be there when we need Him.