When God has given you a creative anointing, and you’re passionately sharing it with the world…

When you’re investing your time, your money, your heart, your reputation…

When your family even has to sacrifice along with you…

It can be very disappointing and discouraging when people don’t react the way you thought they would have, or thought they should have.

You know in your heart that you prayed about it, and you feel in your heart you’re doing what God called and equipped you to do…but it didn’t take off as you expected. And, sometimes it’s been years.

If you aren’t careful you can find yourself WHINING!

WHINING about the fact that you aren’t getting support…

WHINING about the fact that others’ are having the success that you would love to have, even if on the surface they don’t seem worthy…

WHINING that others’ may seem to be an over-night-success…

WHINING that others younger than you are doing so much more…

WHINING that others who haven’t worked as hard or sacrificed as much are doing so much better…

WHINING about the system that is holding you down…

WHINING about the corruption in the system and how you will make it different when you get the influence you hope to have.


I have to admit that when my wife, Gospel/Jazz recording artist Mechelle Johnson, and I first entered the Gospel music industry, I was very disappointed to have so much of what I heard confirmed. That it’s just another business. That it’s filled with people who are unholy. That it is extremely cliquish, and exclusionary…all true!

I was disappointed to see so many artist within our genre who seemed to be more concerned with begging for votes for awards than begging for souls.

And yes, I found myself complaining.

If this has ever been you too, I have a word of admonition and encouragement for US.











LEAD! Yes, it is not a good example when The President of the United States, leaders and Pastors are whining about how bad they are being mistreated. Just as the bible says “Endure hardship as a good soldier of Yeshua the Messiah 2 Timothy 2:3…SHUT UP AND LEAD!


Notice in the bible when the leaders God called began to whine how He told them to get up, snap out of it, and get to work…

Joshua 7:6-10  (ESV)

Then Joshua tore his clothes and fell to the earth on his face before the ark of the Lord until the evening, he and the elders of Israel. And they put dust on their heads. And Joshua said, “Alas, O Lord God, why have you brought this people over the Jordan at all, to give us into the hands of the Amorites, to destroy us? Would that we had been content to dwell beyond the Jordan! O Lord, what can I say, when Israel has turned their backs before their enemies! For the Canaanites and all the inhabitants of the land will hear of it and will surround us and cut off our name from the earth. And what will you do for your great name?10 The Lord said to Joshua, “Get up! Why have you fallen on your face?

Notice how God doesn’t allow us to mope and whine after He as disciplined us…

Hebrews 12:10-12 (NKJV)

10 For they indeed for a few days chastened us as seemed best to them, but He for our profit, that we may be partakers of His holiness. 11 Now no [a]chastening seems to be joyful for the present, but painful; nevertheless, afterward it yields the peaceable fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it. 12 Therefore strengthen the hands which hang down, and the feeble knees,

When you read your bible, the people complained against Moses for 40 years in the wilderness.

The apostles would have loved to have captive audiences rather than getting run out of town and beaten.

And, most of all, Yeshua our Messiah (Jesus Christ) went to the cross, and though He has already arisen from the dead, He is still waiting on His glory and giving more people time to come to God through Him.

The fact is, if our Savior can wait to receive His glory, so can we.



Remember this, If you truly believe that God is in control, and you truly trust Him, you will reach everyone He intends for you to reach in His timing.

Joshua 1:6-7  (NKJV)

Be strong and of good courage, for to this people you shall [a]divide as an inheritance the land which I swore to their fathers to give them. Only be strong and very courageous, that you may observe to do according to all the law which Moses My servant commanded you; do not turn from it to the right hand or to the left, that you may [b]prosper wherever you go.



Okay, I consider my wife and I to be experts on marriage, licensed by over 32 years of ups and downs. Is our marriage perfect? No, but we are perfect for each other.

Even the marriages in the bible were far from perfect. Just go back to Genesis and read about Abraham and Sarah. Neither of them always made the right decisions.

Genesis 16:1-4  (NKJV)

16 Now Sarai, Abram’s wife, had borne him no children. And she had an Egyptian maidservant whose name was Hagar. So Sarai said to Abram, “See now, the Lord has restrained me from bearing children. Please, go in to my maid; perhaps I shall [a]obtain children by her.” And Abram heeded the voice of Sarai. Then Sarai, Abram’s wife, took Hagar her maid, the Egyptian, and gave her to her husband Abram to be his wife, after Abram had dwelt ten years in the land of Canaan. So he went in to Hagar, and she conceived. And when she saw that she had conceived, her mistress became despised in her [b]eyes.

Experience has taught us however, how to make the UPs in marriage higher, and the DOWNs less low.

Keep your marriage fun as much as you can through…


What’s ‘your song(s)’? Always remember those songs you used to listen to when you fell in love. Make the music you both love the soundtrack of your marriage, time stamping the years with fond memories that only the two of you share together. No matter how spiritual you are, enjoy romantic, fun and festive songs in your marriage. No matter how much you love God, He doesn’t expect you to get romantic while listening to “Amazing Grace”.

Remember, without music, life would be all talk!


Laughter is a gift from God. Never stop doing things to make one another laugh. The longer you live together, the more you learn how to make each other’s smiles turn into sometimes uncontrollable laughter. Make the most of every opportunity to laugh at yourself. Don’t take yourselves too seriously.

Your laughter will be a testimony to the world of the joy in a Godly marriage. Others will notice and be encouraged.

Psalm 126:2  (NKJV)

Then our mouth was filled with laughter,
And our tongue with singing.
Then they said among the [a]nations,
“The Lord has done great things for them.”


So many Christians think drinking alcohol is a sin. They are quick to proclaim, “I don’t drink!”

However, when you read the bible in both the Old and New Testaments, wine is a part of life and enjoyed in the bible.

One of the reasons that the religious leaders called Yeshua a ‘winebibber’ is because He drank wine. The fact is when, the wine ran out at the wedding party where he performed His first miracle, He provided the ‘next round’.

Matthew 11:19  (NKJV)

1The Son of Man came eating and drinking, and they say, ‘Look, a glutton and a [a]winebibber, a friend of tax collectors and sinners!’ But wisdom is justified by her [b]children.”

John 2:6-11  (NKJV)

Now there were set there six waterpots of stone, according to the manner of purification of the Jews, containing twenty or thirty gallons apiece. Jesus said to them, “Fill the waterpots with water.” And they filled them up to the brim. And He said to them, “Draw some out now, and take it to the master of the feast.” And they took it. When the master of the feast had tasted the water that was made wine, and did not know where it came from (but the servants who had drawn the water knew), the master of the feast called the bridegroom. 10 And he said to him, “Every man at the beginning sets out the good wine, and when the guests have well drunk, then the inferior. You have kept the good wine until now!”

11 This beginning of signs Jesus did in Cana of Galilee, and [a]manifested His glory; and His disciples believed in Him.

Is it a sin to get drunk? YES, YES, YES, YES, YES! Getting drunk is forbidden by God…

Ephesians 5:18  (NKJV)

18 And do not be drunk with wine, in which is dissipation; but be filled with the Spirit,

However, there are many scriptures that let us know we are free to drink wine as long as we do it responsibly.

Deuteronomy 14:26  (NKJV)

26 And you shall spend that money for whatever your heart desires: for oxen or sheep, for wine or similar drink, for whatever your heart desires; you shall eat there before the Lord your God, and you shall rejoice, you and your household.

Psalm 104:15  (NKJV)

15 And wine that makes glad the heart of man,
Oil to make his face shine,
And bread which strengthens man’s heart.

1 Timothy 5:23 (NKJV)

23 No longer drink only water, but use a little wine for your stomach’s sake and your frequent [a]infirmities.

So, find time to enhance the mood by enjoying some drinks together as long as you don’t get drunk.


Yes, marriage is work, and there will be times that you don’t even want to talk to each other, but in spite of that, the joy you share can make you marriage get better as the years go by.


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