Here’s a quick story. One day years ago while working a previous job, I was in the office, and I didn’t do a particular job to meet my direct manager’s expectations. That’s just a reality of work and relationships. We will not always meet each other’s expectations.
That particular manager became very angry, slammed his fist on the desk and said very loudly in front of everyone, “You will NOT do this like this again!”
I remained calm, and went to the bathroom to pray and ask God to give me the wisdom to handle the situation.
I then calmly returned to his desk and said, “Listen, my name is not Chris (his son’s name is Chris). I respect your authority, and you can write me up, suspend me, or even fire me, but you WILL NOT DISRESPECT ME AGAIN! The reason we are both here is to provide for our families, and your position does not give you the right to disrespect me.” He spent the rest of the day apologizing to me, and thank God it never happened again.
It’s amazing how some people equate being loud, mean, and difficult to strength, leadership and assertiveness.
Notice that what God defines as the Fruit of His Spirit, the evidence that we are in relationship with Him, are qualities that are considered weak in ‘Western’ culture.
Galatians 5:22-23 (NKJV)
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 [a]gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.
When did it become acceptable for leadership to get a pass on being respectful?
God expects us to remain in His character, especially when we are in positions of leadership. And, when we work with people who don’t have a relationship with God, it’s our responsibility to hold them accountable.
You can be an influence on the culture of your workplace by how you respond to the negative, difficult situations.
Pray for discernment so you can know in which situations to speak up, and in which situations to remain silent.
You can respond in God’s love, but also in His authority. Control your emotions, choose your words carefully, speak calmly, and be prepared for the consequences of you standing your ground.
Proverbs 15:1 (NKJV)
15 A soft answer turns away wrath, But a harsh word stirs up anger.
Quiet doesn’t always mean silent…
NOTHING INTIMIDATES A LOUDMOUTH LIKE THE QUIET STRENGTH OF HUMILITY.
There are few things more valuable than good advice. It’s one of those intangibles that can help us grow and mature. Whether it be that we ask for it ourselves or it’s given unsolicited, listening to and accepting good advice is an act of humility that can be very rewarding.
Proverbs 19:20 (NKJV)
20 Listen to counsel and receive instruction, That you may be wise in your latter days.
Proverbs 12:15 (NKJV)
15 The way of a fool is right in his own eyes, But he who heeds counsel is wise.
Matthew 23:12 (NKJV)
12 And whoever exalts himself will be [a]humbled, and he who humbles himself will be [b]exalted.
Fortunately, we all have people in our lives who are always full of advice.
Unfortunately, sometimes these people have too much advice. There are no humorous, fun, carefree conversations…it’s always advice.
If the advice is good, take it. But, remember this…
WATCH OUT FOR PEOPLE WHO ALWAYS HAVE ADVICE BUT NEVER HAVE ENCOURAGEMENT!
Watch out for people who always have an…
“If I were you…”
“I tell people all the time…”
“You don’t need to do this…”
“You don’t need to do that…”
But never have a…
“It’s gonna be okay…”
“We all make mistakes…”
“I’m praying for you…”
Many times these people are more concerned with their EGO than helping you GROW.
Proverbs 16:24 (NKJV)
Pleasant words are like a honeycomb, Sweetness to the soul and health to the bones.
9 Then the woman of Samaria said to Him, “How is it that You, being a Jew, ask a drink from me, a Samaritan woman?” For Jews have no dealings with Samaritans.
Eventhough Jews and Samaritans were all the ‘seed of Abraham, because the Jews felt the Samaritans were ‘less pure’ they detested them and did not associate with them.
Racism and prejudice have been around long before then though. But, let me first clarify that you can’t equate God’s prohibition from the Jews ‘mixing’ with other people as the equivalent to racism. This was purely spiritual because the nations around them served other Gods… It was a matter of faith and not race…