wp-1477320525355.jpgTOUGH LOVE. We want to make sure we aren’t ENABLING their dysfunction. We can’t let the dysfunction and evil of some bring us down with them…can’t let their issues infect our home.

Many times we’ll say, you have to let some people hit ROCK BOTTOM as the PRODIGAL SON (Luke 15:11-32) did and COME TO THEMSELVES.

But we must pray for wisdom and discernment and realize that the ROCK BOTTOM scenario may be a case-by-case basis.

Some people are STRONGER IN THEIR WEAKNESSES than others. For every PRODIGAL who CAME TO THEMSELVES, there are also those who never did.

ROCK BOTTOM didn’t shock them to their senses.

ROCK BOTTOM wasn’t a wake up call.

ROCK BOTTOM didn’t turn them around.

Everyone may not be equipped to handle ROCK BOTTOM.

Do you know anyone who died out there in their HOG PEN?

We must pray for wisdom and discernment when dealing with our challenged loved ones. Sometimes we have loved ones who are good people with a good heart, but they just can’t get it together. Sometimes we have loved ones that have been so HURT by the world, that it may have critically damaged their abilities to cope. We must ask for God’s guidance in which ones we must LET GO, and which we must BEAR THE INFIRMITIES and FAILINGS of the WEAK.



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  1. This is so true. I had an in-law that I thought was too far gone yet he hit rock bottom, stayed there for years and still, God lifted him up and delivered him upon his crying out to Him. Nothing is impossible with God. On the other hand, I had a relative that I cried to God about many a times, knowing nothing was impossible for Him. Though I pray she came to her senses in her “rock bottom” end, I never saw anything but scoffing from her and was a victim of her abuses and revilings to the point the Lord, through my husband, said no more of caring for her. We just never know but the Lord does and He will let us know what to do. He may use us and He may use another…great is His mercy!

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  2. Deep! It’s definitely an unfortunate truth. Not everyone comes out., but on the other side of the coin, those who seek forgiveness and grace are not always given it, including by the believers who claim so. There’s a lot of judgement believers have about sinners, and those who have back slid. Part of the problem is definitely on the sinner, but then again, what kind of example are we really giving others in our life, I must ask.

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  3. It’s interesting how we can take a sometimes useful saying like “let them hit rock bottom” and treat it like it was a command from God – I love the fact you placed God in the position of leading those who want to see their loved ones rescued instead of a pop-psychology phrase that lacks the perfection of an all knowing and loving God

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  4. “Do you know anyone who died out there in their Hog Pen?” <<<—this is perfect. I’m sharing it with a beloved friend who is helping her son through addiction and needs to hear this perspective. I’m thankful that God sent a woman into my life BEFORE I hit rock bottom.

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  5. Dealing with adult relatives is tough when you know they have been exposed to the Truth. I’ll think about what you wrote. Thanks.

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    1. I often think of verse 12:

      Proverbs 9:7-12 New King James Version (NKJV)

      7 “He who corrects a scoffer gets shame for himself,
      And he who rebukes a wicked man only harms himself.
      8 Do not correct a scoffer, lest he hate you;
      Rebuke a wise man, and he will love you.
      9 Give instruction to a wise man, and he will be still wiser;
      Teach a just man, and he will increase in learning.

      10 “The fear of the Lord is the beginning of wisdom,
      And the knowledge of the Holy One is understanding.
      11 For by me your days will be multiplied,
      And years of life will be added to you.
      12 If you are wise, you are wise for yourself,
      And if you scoff, you will bear it alone.”

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