This piece isn’t intended to judge anyone for their level of reaction on social media. Any of us who participate have people with whom we’ve connected that get less reaction than others, and we really mean no harm.
So that being said, we all noticed that some friends react heavily to your birthday and family posts, but not so much when you’re sharing your accomplishments, creativity, humor, inspiration etc.
Sometimes people even get ‘in their feelings’ and announce that they are ‘removing’ friends and followers who aren’t engaged. We have all probably noticed ‘ADD FRIEND’ on someone’s page that you thought you were already connected…because they removed you.
So, here are 7 reasons why some of your friends refrain from reacting to your posts..
1. They don’t know you like that…
Yes, you’re friends. You have mutual friends that you may know or not REALLY know, but you’re not in each others ‘circle’ of REAL friends with whom you interact on a regular basis. The fact is that you know OF each other, but don’t really KNOW each other. So, don’t take it personal. Think of the friends in your social media circle that you don’t really know. How often to you react to their posts?
2. YOU post too much for them…
Notice that the heading says YOU post too much, and not you POST too much. Sometimes people get tired of YOUR posts, while they may react very frequently to someone else’s. They might not even know why, but for some reason they get tired of seeing YOUR posts. Sooo, this is ‘somewhat’ personal but not necessarily malicious.
3. They’re annoyed by your ACCOMPLISHMENTS, CREATIVITY, , MARRIAGE, HUMOR, POLITICS, INSPIRATION, COMPLAINING or FAITH…
When we step back and look at what we share, most of the time it’s centered around one or two themes…the pursuit of our passions, our accomplishments, our faith, happy marriages, complaining, politics or encouraging others. Many times we can almost predict what someone’s post will be about when we see their names. Personally my ‘friends’ react far less frequently to posts about my wife’s music, my blog or inspiration, but they react heavily to birthday and family posts. But, as I said, I catch myself doing the same thing.
4. They’re stealing from your creativity…
Many times your friends and followers aren’t ignoring you at all. They really secretly LOVE your content… your inspiration… your opinions… your creativity. They like it so much that while they don’t acknowledge they’ve seen your posts, they ‘steal’ from your creativity… They use your quotes without quoting that you said it first…. They use your thoughts in their conversations, speeches, sermons, songs, etc… and they don’t want you to know they saw that it originated with you. It’s one thing to be inspired by someone, and another thing to ‘steal’ from their creativity.
5. They don’t like you, but can’t disconnect from you…
Some people will see your caption, image or video and move their finger to react, then when they see it’s YOU, they keep scrolling instead. They don’t necessarily hate you (but they also just might) but for some reason don’t react but won’t disconnect. They enjoy ‘not liking you’. They enjoy using you posts as excuses to talk about you to others. Your posts are fuel for their attitude against you and provide material for conversations. They LOVE to HATE you. Disconnecting or ‘unfriending’ you would actually make their life a little more boring.
6. They don’t consider you to be a PEER but love to PEER at your posts…
You may be in the same profession. You may share common interests. You may feel that you are they’re PEER OR equal, but they still love to PEER or look at your posts. As an associate minister and blogger, SOME but not all of my Senior Pastor connections on social media may not consider me to be a PEER or their equal in the ministry, but that doesn’t mean they don’t sometimes VIEW, are inspired by and sometimes use my content.
7. They just don’t notice…
We all have people within our social media circles who we just simply don’t notice their posts. As they scroll looking for certain people or topics, they may miss some people in their circle. They don’t mean any harm…I think we all do this sometimes.
This short list is by no means exhaustive. Again, think about the reasons you may not react as much to some people in your circle. So, before you disconnect from people who don’t react as much as you like…think about the reasons you’re on social media. And, remember, don’t base you life and happiness on what happens there.
And remember that Jesus let us know that all of us are fickle at our best…
John 2:23-24 (NIV)
23 Now while he was in Jerusalem at the Passover Festival, many people saw the signs he was performing and believed in his name.[a] 24 But Jesus would not entrust himself to them, for he knew all people.
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BEFORE YOU UNFRIEND, BLOCK OR DELETE YOUR ‘MESSY’ FRIENDS ON FACEBOOK…
BE BLESSTIFIED!
BE BLESSTIFIED! 
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