Do you know anyone who tries to get affirmation and validation by claiming that they don’t need it? Have you ever heard anyone say that? Have you said it yourself?
People usually say this because they are really ‘in their feelings’ because they want affirmation, validation or appreciation and feel they aren’t getting it.
Yes, it’s good to be confident in who you are and not need anyone else to tell you, but the truth of the matter is that God created us for relationship, and one aspect of relationship is affirmation from others.
Whether we admit or not, we all need validation and affirmation sometimes. We give God affirmation and validation by praising Him.
GOD LOVES PRAISE!
Praise is affirmation of His greatness, holiness, sovereignty, justice…His love for us and our love for Him.
GOD LOVES PRAISE and there’s nothing wrong with that.
So here’s the thing…
We all need a little praise sometimes too. We all need affirmation sometimes. We all need validation sometimes…especially by those who are closest to us.
Do you know why?
Because we were all created in God’s image, and it is our duty to affirm Him with our praise.
Does God NEED our affirmation to be God? Absolutely not! He has Holy angels to declare His greatness day and night…
Revelation 4:8 (NKJV)
8 The four living creatures, each having six wings, were full of eyes around and within. And they do not rest day or night, saying:
“Holy,[a] holy, holy,
Lord God Almighty,
Who was and is and is to come!
God teaches us to honor our parents in the Lord…Affirmation.
Ephesians 6:1 (NKJV)
Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right.
The bible teaches us to esteem others better than ourselves….Affirmation.
Philippians 2:3 (NKJV)
3 Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.
We’re told ordain those set aside for the ministry by the laying on of hands…Affirmation.
The key is to not feel disqualified by God when we don’t receive affirmation, and certainly don’t let it go to our heads. Jesus taught us this early in His ministry…
John 2:23-25 (NKJV)
Now when He was in Jerusalem at the Passover, during the feast, many believed in His name when they saw the signs which He did. 24 But Jesus did not commit Himself to them, because He knew all men, 25 and had no need that anyone should testify of man, for He knew what was in man.
People are very fickle. Remember many people cried “Hosanna!” to Jesus at the beginning of the week and ended the week crying “Crucify Him!”
So. don’t feel to guilty for feeling the need for affirmation sometimes. Don’t let it go to your head when you get it. And, don’t feel like God doesn’t value you when you don’t.