I know some of you are thinking, “What are you talking about preacher?”
Whether they admit it or not, everyone wants good sex. Well here’s the thing…God knows that.
He made us that way.
That’s why he created the desire. He created our bodies to attract one another, and most importantly, He created Godly marriage between a man and woman, so that we can enjoy good sex.
GODLY SEX IS SEX BETWEEN A MARRIED MAN AND WOMAN
Matthew 19:4-6 (NKJV)
4 And He answered and said to them, “Have you not read that He who made[a]them at the beginning ‘made them male and female,’[b] 5 and said, ‘For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’?[c] 6 So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate.”
The fact that the enemy knows how much people crave good sex is why it has been such a powerful weapon for him throughout the ages. If the enemy can use it to be stumbling block to a man after God’s own heart like King David (2 Samuel Chapter 11), then we know it can be a stumbling block to any of us.
Sex is ordained by God, and the enemy has always manipulated situations to pervert what was meant to be Holy.
Hebrews 13:4 (NKJV)
4 Marriage is honorable among all, and the bed undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge.
He has perverted it through tempting God’s children through…
The Strip Club…
And the list can go on and on.
OUR SEXUAL DESIRE IS INNATE, BUT GOD ONLY PERMITS US TO FULFILL IT ONLY AS ORDAINED BY HIM.
Just because someone naturally has an unquenchable desire for the opposite sex does not mean it’s okay to fulfill it with as many people who will agree to sleep with them.
Just because someone naturally has a desire for his or her own sex does not mean that it’s okay for them to sleep with someone of their own sex.
Just because someone’s spouse is not fulfilling their marital ‘duty’ does not give them an excuse to step outside of their marriage.
I think any couple that engaged in premarital sex, but then married will agree that the best sex is when they have made it ‘legal in the eyes of God’.
There’s no greater satisfaction that when two married people are not just connected physically, but also connected mentally, emotionally and most of all spiritually.
Here are just a few verses stating what the bible has to say about good, godly sex…
Proverbs 5:18-19 (NKJV)
18 Let your fountain be blessed,
And rejoice with the wife of your youth.
19 As a loving deer and a graceful doe,
Let her breasts satisfy you at all times;
And always be enraptured with her love.
Song of Solomon 1:2 (NKJV)
2 Let him kiss me with the kisses of his mouth—For your[b] love is better than wine.
Song of Solomon 4:9-11 (NKJV)
9 You have ravished my heart,
My sister, my spouse;
You have ravished my heart
With one look of your eyes,
With one link of your necklace.
10 How fair is your love,
My sister, my spouse!
How much better than wine is your love,
And the scent of your perfumes
Than all spices!
11 Your lips, O my spouse,
Drip as the honeycomb;
Honey and milk are under your tongue;
And the fragrance of your garments
Is like the fragrance of Lebanon.
Song of Solomon 5:16 (NKJV)
16 His mouth is most sweet,
Yes, he is altogether lovely.
This is my beloved,
And this is my friend,
O daughters of Jerusalem!
Whew! That’s the Word!
Not only is there nothing WRONG with a little wine, music and romance between a husband and wife – it is absolutely RIGHT!
Yes, there are seasons when married people are not always on the same page sexually, but that’s why sex is spiritual and holy. Notice what God advises us through the apostle Paul…
1 Corinthians 7:4-5 (NKJV)
4 The wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. And likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5 Do not deprive one another except with consent for a time, that you may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again so that Satan does not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.
So, if you are engaging in sex that is not ordained by God…
No matter how much they make your toes curl…
No matter how intense the climax…
No matter how much you look forward to seeing them again…
No matter how good they look, feel or smell…
No matter how you choose to excuse it…
It is unholy, ungodly, unethical, immoral, rejected by God and puts you at risk to go to Hell.
NO MATTER HOW GOOD IT FEELS, IF IT’S NOT GODLY IT’S NOT GOOD
But, when you know that both of you are enjoying one another within the will of God, your intimate time together can be good through 10 – 20 – 30 – 40 – 50 years of marriage and beyond.
Remember, even though his wife Sarah suggested it, Abraham’s sex with Hagar was not ordained by God, and it led to bitterness and trouble in his marriage. But, once He and Sarah believed God’s promise of a son in their old age, they saw pleasure again as they did in their youth…
Genesis 18:12-14 (NKJV)
12 Therefore Sarah laughed within herself, saying, “After I have grown old, shall I have pleasure, my lord being old also?”
13 And the Lord said to Abraham, “Why did Sarah laugh, saying, ‘Shall I surely bear a child, since I am old?’ 14 Is anything too hard for the Lord? At the appointed time I will return to you, according to the time of life, and Sarah shall have a son.”
Even good sex is not too hard for God!
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AMEN! I always enjoy Abraham and Sarah’s happy ending!
…”Is anything too hard for The Lord?…”
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That’s right! Our God is AWESOME!
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So awesome that I got the goosebumps reading what you said!!!
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Wonderful job, brother.
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Thank you! To God be the glory:-)
Blessings to your ministry my brother!
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Thanks! God bless you:-)
Now, if you are unable to obtain a spouse (believe it or not, there are some who simply cannot marry, no matter what the smugly married say), and you add masturbation to the list of sexual sins that send you to Hell, and you cannot control yourself any better than an addict who secrets cocaine out of his own body, then you have a problem on your hands – no pun intended. Some men in this situation would turn to castration…but oh, they thought of that too, and now that is a grave sin per the Nicene Creed. What now?
Usually, by the time you get to this hypothetical juncture, the afflicted gets told to pray about it until sexuality is purged from the body, and it’s a wait-and-see if that happens before the person is cut down like chaff and thrown into the fire; or, they get told that they are doing something wrong spiritually, or are guilty of something, and no sympathy or help is offered; in either case, it seems they are pretty much cut loose…
Well, until someone wants to judge them.
If it’s one of the least-realized issues that many church communities are guilty of these days, it a lack of acceptance for those who are called to singleness. How audacious that some institutions that call themselves “churches” put so much time and focus on recognizing and even accommodating the actions of homosexuals, but sneer at and judge those who are single and, for all anyone knows, lead a celibate life. Is it any wonder that so many single adults leave the pews, when they are often places where they get nothing but condemnation from the pulpit? That there is nothing you can do with singleness except “fix” it with marriage? John Hughes Morgan, here on WordPress, writes very eloquently about the “Charism of Virginity in the 21st Century”, but I wonder how many people in a modern congregation would deride him and his words as something lower that homosexuals, fornicators, etc.? One might call that inconceivable, and swear that their congregation is far above such judgmental behavior…but before they say that, they should observe, to see if that’s really true. They should pose the questions that lead to the answer, whatever it is, regardless of what one wants the answer to be. You know a tree by its fruit, and if those in church have turned marriage itself into a kind of false idol, the truth will speak for itself.
Now if it’s not true that even churches have become sex-obsessed, that the behavior of smugly married adults toward single adults is a kind of continuation of the same teenage one-upmanship that put the dateless in a state of social disgrace, then let’s ask this question: how valid is it really to say that that the problem of pedophilia among Catholic clergy – as undeniable as that is on its face – is a result of celibacy? Something tells me that those who come to that conclusion do so out of confirmation bias rather than solid investigation.
But…what do you think?
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Thanks so much for adding to the discussion. Jesus actually addressed celibacy, which to your point, is not for everyone. It is a calling that’s not for everyone.
Matthew 19:12 New King James Version (NKJV)
12 For there are eunuchs who were born thus from their mother’s womb, and there are eunuchs who were made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven’s sake. He who is able to accept it, let him accept it.”
You bring up a great point and question. Some men ( in regard to the Clergy you mentioned) may have committed themselves to something God didn’t call them. Married people must be careful to approach singleness in humility and love. Your response deserves a post within itself. I’m going to read it a few more times and meditate on it.
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