SIBLING RIVALRY: WHEN GOD’S CHILDREN THINK HE’S NOT BEING FAIR…

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I have 3 children adult children, who of course, don’t always get along perfectly. Siblings disagree and the bible confirms that. Joseph of Genesis brothers disliked him. Jacob and Esau were rivals over the family blessing and birthright. Even David, a man after God’s own heart, had children who were not only rivals, but extremely dysfunctional.

My children and I’m quite certain your children or you and your siblings, if you have them, are no different.

There have been times that my children have claimed that my wife and I were not being fair toward one of them relative to one of them, or the other two. They have each compared what we do or don’t do for each of them to one another.

My response…


God isn’t ‘fair’ with His children. God does what He pleases or doesn’t do as He pleases for His own reasons.


I can’t explain why one person has a terminal illness, and another rarely ever has a sick day. I can’t complain why everything one person touches turns to gold, while there are other devout Christians live in a country with no clean water or infrastructure for things to get better anytime soon. However, many times this type of poverty is an opportunity for those who are blessed more materially to be obedient and do good to ‘the least of them’ (Matthew 25).

But, look at what Jesus said in a sense about ‘fairness’ in the bible…

 Luke 4:24-27(NKJV)

24 Then He said, “Assuredly, I say to you, no prophet is accepted in his own country. 25 But I tell you truly, many widows were in Israel in the days of Elijah, when the heaven was shut up three years and six months, and there was a great famine throughout all the land; 26 but to none of them was Elijah sent except to Zarephath,[a] in the region of Sidon, to a woman who was a widow. 27 And many lepers were in Israel in the time of Elisha the prophet, and none of them was cleansed except Naaman the Syrian.”

God used the prophet Elijah to help the widow in Zarephath, however there were many others who didn’t receive help. There were many with leprosy in those days, but Jesus declares only Naaman was healed. Were either of these situations ‘fair’?

Have you ever looked at t he lives of others and felt that God wasn’t being fair to you? It may seem others are being blessed, some who you feel may not ‘deserve’ blessing as much as you. It may seem that others are being healed. It may seem that others who are a lot less sincere are doing a lot better than you.

You may not say it out loud, you may feel God is being unfair.

You may not say it out loud, you may even be jealous of your Christian brother and sisters…

Family…

Marriage…

‘Success’…

Children…

Health…

Influence…

Ministry…

You may even to begin to consider them your rival, placing yourself in some unspoken competition with them. This can cause great dysfunction in the Body of Christ.

Remember, that just as a parent loves all their children, God loves all of His. But, also remember that just as each of your children are not the same, neither are all of God’s.

Sometimes God lets us see how He feels through our relationships. We can compare our frustration with our children with His frustration with us. After all, we were all made in His image.


Rather than hear a random complaint from your child about how unfair you are, wouldn’t you rather hear a random, “THANK YOU FOR ALL THAT YOU DO FOR ME”?


So, the next time you think that God is being unfair to you. The next time you find yourself complaining about how He is treating one of your ‘siblings’… stop and thank Him for how good He is to you. Thank Him for what He IS doing in your life. Thank Him for what He is protecting you from. Thanks

BE BLESSTIFIED!

4 thoughts on “SIBLING RIVALRY: WHEN GOD’S CHILDREN THINK HE’S NOT BEING FAIR…

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  1. Then Peter began to speak: “I now realize how true it is that God does not show favoritism”……A person with one gold coin thought GOD was not fair,,,i sometimes thought so..but i have been improved a bit…always remind myself GOD is fair,,,and i am unfair to myself and others are unfair to me….last week there was another article by https://kingdomcallingblog.com/2017/09/17/have-you-ever-felt-like-shouting-its-not-fair/ ….which was pretty good article that put me in a deep thought as well. Your and her article did teach me some important lesson but Ecclesiastes 7:29 (CJB) This is the only thing I have found, that God made human beings upright, but they have devised many schemes….is enough to open my eyes after reading words from wise man Solomon

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  2. I remember one day I was wishing that my daughter could feel what I was feeling. It seemed like no matter what I did for her, she was still ungrateful. I couldn’t make her happy. And then I saw myself and how I treated God at times…and I repented.
    Good read!

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