Think about your relationship with your husband or your wife, your parents, your siblings, your friends…the people who are important to you.

Have they ever done anything to hurt you? Now, have you ever done anything to hurt them? If you are still in relationship with them, then either two things have happened. Either you’ve hurt and forgiving one another or, you are living with a grudge over…something.

And, if you are living with a grudge then you are putting your relationship at risk because that grudge gives the enemy a foothold to gain influence in that relationship.

Now, think of those relationships that you are no longer involved in. A broken marriage. Siblings who don’t speak. Friends who have become enemies. There is one reason those relationships no longer exist…something happened that you can’t forgive.

Nothing deep here, must a quick reminder. If the relationship is important to you, be ready to forgive. Because whatever it is that you feel you could never forgive, most if not all of the time, that’s what the enemy will use to destroy your relationship.

Remember this…

Your relationships are only as strong as what you are willing to forgive.

So, not only should you be ready to forgive, but if the relationship is important to you, be ready to move on and forgive without an apology. For more on this, read HOW TO MOVE FORWARD WITHOUT AN APOLOGY ( 8 TIPS)…

Proverbs 19:11 (NKJV)

11 The discretion of a man makes him slow to anger,
And his glory isto overlook a transgression.



We have all heard the phrases before…
“He or she got chewed out.”
“He ripped him a new one.”
“Set them out.”
“Told them off.”
“Set them straight.”
“Went off on.”
Of course it refers to when an adult employee must be disciplined or reprimanded by their supervisor, manager…whomever they report to or answer to for doing something wrong on the job.
Most managers, no matter what level, are responsible and accountable for their direct reports, and must answer to his or her manager.
We live in a culture where ‘chewing out’ subordinates is accepted and common, but that doesn’t make it right.

So here’s my question. At what point does does workplace discipline, chewing out, or a sharp rebuke, become disrespectful?

When it’s too loud?
When it’s public?
When there’s profanity?
When the subordinate is insulted?
When the subordinate is belittled?
When the subordinate is embarrassed?
When the subordinate is humiliated?
When it’s malicious?
When it’s out of anger and emotion?
What is necessary to properly address the problem? What is necessary to ensure it never happens again? Is it necessary to be an example to others?
Some argue it may be more necessary and acceptable in the military and law enforcement where lives are at stake, but the bible even addresses their behavior.
Luke 3:14 (NKJV)

14 Likewise the soldiers asked him, saying, “And what shall we do?” So he said to them, “Do not intimidate anyone or accuse falsely, and be content with your wages.”

Even the bible teaches that leaders are to rebuke, or correct sharply…but what does that mean? How do you correct someone in a volunteer organization such as the church?
2 Timothy 4:2  (NKJV)

2 Preach the word! Be ready in season and out of season. Convince, rebuke, exhort, with all longsuffering and teaching.

But, we know that it’s not God’s will for a minister to rebuke with profanity or malice. God has told us to not allow any unclean communication to come out of our mouths…
Ephesians 4:29  (NKJV)

29 Let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers.

This admonition is universal, not excused in the workplace, on a team* or even in the military…at least for disciples of Christ. Unfortunately, many of those who disrespect others with their mouths claim to be believers.
God has also told us to treat others as we want to be treated…
Luke 6:31  (NKJV)

31 And just as you want men to do to you, you also do to them likewise.

I don’t know of anyone who wants to be disrespected, even when they are wrong.

The fact is, that when we are hired on any job, we are usually given the discipline process…
Usually, verbal warnings, write ups and termination, and most if not all the time, disrespect isn’t included.

So, here is my perspective. Here’s the Aldtric Johnson’s philosophy on discipline in the workplace…

We may not all be equal in rank, but we are equal in being adults.
We are all working for the same company to earn a living.
Outside of the organization we are all equal.
If I make a mistake at work…
You can give me a respectful verbal warning.
You can write me up.
You can even fire me.
But, YOU WILL NOT disrespect me, belittle me, curse me, embarrass me, talk to me like a child, or even make an example of me.
If you decide to fire me, that’s example enough.
Refusing to accept should never be insubordination.
For more information on this subject, check out’s employee discipline guide at:



In the wake of the tragic school shooting in Florida, the enemy has launched an attack on prayer…
Unfortunately, too many disciples of Christ are either consenting in agreement with, or saying themselves…“We don’t care about your thoughts and prayers, it’s time for action”.
Why can’t we have both?

Thoughts, prayers and action are not mutually exclusive. They can all still exist together. You don’t have to abandon praying in order to get action.

Thoughts and prayers ARE action!


Thoughts and prayers should also LEAD to wise, God ordained action through the prayers. God is a God of action, through praying people…
James 2:14-17 (NKJV)

14 What does it profit, my brethren, if someone says he has faith but does not have works? Can faith save him? 15 If a brother or sister is naked and destitute of daily food, 16 and one of you says to them, “Depart in peace, be warmed and filled,” but you do not give them the things which are needed for the body, what does it profit? 17 Thus also faith by itself, if it does not have works, is dead.

That’s why the “Our thoughts and prayers are with you” platitude causes some problems…

To many people, that’s all it is, a nice platitude…the right thing to say at the time.

Too many people say it, but don’t pray.

When and if they do pray, are they praying according to God’s will, or for Him to act according to theirs?

When they do pray, are they praying in humility, or telling God what to do?

When they pray, do they really have faith and believe?
James 1:6 (NKJV)

6 But let him ask in faith, with no doubting, for he who doubts is like a wave of the sea driven and tossed by the wind.

And most importantly, is their prayer to the LORD God of Israel through our Lord and Savior, Yeshua, Jesus Christ?

Don’t let the enemy diminish the power of your prayer to meaningless, empty words.

The next time you tell someone, “My thoughts and prayers are with you”…

Pray for them…

Pray for wisdom…

Pray for God’s will to be done…

Then do what is within your power to help.


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