Any one who has been married for a while can admit to the fact that overall, even though you love each other… some days can be very challenging.
Things can seem…monotonous…uninteresting…hum drum…routine…
And, I’m not necessarily talking about intimacy.
Going day in and day out, just living can make life seem predictable and boring. And, it can make the unexpected challenges that much more challenging. You know, when you already know how he or she is going respond…sometimes the exact opposite of how you respond.
How can you make life fun again? How can you break the monotony? How can you make intimacy more intimate again?
Think for a moment to what made life so exciting when you FIRST met…When you went on your FIRST date…When you rented or bought your FIRST house…When you had your FIRST child…When you, well you know…when you were intimate with one another the FIRST time.
The mystery…anticipation…the excitement…the discovery of doing things the FIRST time TOGETHER.
Notice I kept saying…FIRST.
Even if you’ve been married 30 years (as I have) you can rejuvenate your marriage and relationship with one simple tip…
It’s a simple but powerful way to breathe much-needed life into your relationship.
Sit down together and regularly schedule something NEW…even if it’s just once a month.
It doesn’t even have to be expensive, but it can be…it’s up to you (yep, something else to agree on).
Go to a park that you’ve never visited before…TOGETHER.
Go to a restaurant that you’ve never been to before…TOGETHER
Visit another city that neither of you have been to before…TOGETHER.
Try some new cuisine, even if you cook it at home, that you’ve never considered trying before…TOGETHER.
Do something that neither of you like, for example, if you hate opera or ballet…go, and have fun laughing and making fun of all the things you don’t like about it…TOGETHER.
Experiencing something fresh and NEW is a great way to create great NEW memories.
Aquila and Priscilla were two of the Apostle Paul’s partners in ministry and evangelism. They were a husband and wife ministry team, that not only did ministry TOGETHER, but they also worked TOGETHER as tent makers..
Acts 18:1-2 (NKJV)
After these things Paul departed from Athens and went to Corinth. 2 And he found a certain Jew named Aquila, born in Pontus, who had recently come from Italy with his wife Priscilla (because Claudius had commanded all the Jews to depart from Rome); and he came to them. 3 So, because he was of the same trade, he stayed with them and worked; for by occupation they were tentmakers.
It’s no doubt that they had some challenging issues being TOGETHER all the time, but I’m quite certain that the challenges of doing ministry TOGETHER gave them innumerable exciting, NEW experiences.
This year marks my 30th anniversary. We married very young and were determined to make it our first and only marriage. By the grace of God, we’ve had, and still have many ups and downs…but one of the most powerful tools to keep our love not only STRONG, but NEW is experiencing NEW things TOGETHER. My wife LOOOOVES experiencing things that are NEW…TOGETHER!