wp-1477320525355.jpgTOUGH LOVE. We want to make sure we aren’t ENABLING their dysfunction. We can’t let the dysfunction and evil of some bring us down with them…can’t let their issues infect our home. Many times we’ll say, you have to let some people hit ROCK BOTTOM as the PRODIGAL SON (Luke 15:11-32) did and COME TO THEMSELVES. But we must pray for wisdom and discernment and realize that the ROCK BOTTOM scenario may be a case-by-case basis.

Some people are STRONGER IN THEIR WEAKNESSES than others. For every PRODIGAL who CAME TO THEMSELVES, there are also those who never did.

ROCK BOTTOM didn’t shock them to their senses.

ROCK BOTTOM wasn’t a wake up call.

ROCK BOTTOM didn’t turn them around.

Everyone may not be equipped to handle ROCK BOTTOM.

Do you know anyone who died out there in their HOG PEN?

We must pray for wisdom and discernment when dealing with our challenged loved ones. Sometimes we have loved ones who are good people with a good heart, but they just can’t get it together. Sometimes we have loved ones that have been so HURT by the world, that it may have critically damaged their abilities to cope. We must ask for God’s guidance in which ones we must LET GO, and which we must BEAR THE INFIRMITIES and FAILINGS of the WEAK.



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  1. Thank you for re-posting. Our 19 year old son who we adopted when he was 7 decided, when he turned 17ish, he could enjoy the world without mom and dad. He says he has been saved, but I do believe, as David stated, you can lose the joy of your Salvation and get out in the cold, dark world, and the longer you stay, the dimmer your Light becomes until you don’t even recognize it any longer, but if you have truly been saved the Lord is there waiting for you to return to Him if you are repentant . In the year our son stayed away from home he had relations with MANY women/girls many of who he doesn’t even know. He had a baby out of wedlock who he isn’t allowed to see. His license is suspended with several unpaid speeding tickets. He was fired from many jobs. He smoked marijuana and drank every night to pass out from depression. He became so far out in the world that his father and I had to ask him not to come on our property. This was one of the MOST difficult things to do. I would go for a few weeks or months without knowing where he was, but I would send him a message every now and again to tell him we loved him. I wanted him to hit “rock bottom” but I also knew, as the Minister wrote above, that we had to bring him back if it got too far. This is difficult as a parent. Finally, last October he was accused of 2nd degree burglary. They are going to dismiss the charge due to lack of evidence, HOWEVER, I went to visitation with him and was able to email him. We allowed him to remain in jail for 9 weeks because we wanted him to feel the sting of jail. Thank the Lord, my husband is a formal correctional officer, and he and I prayed about the situation. We made the decision to bond him out so he didn’t get “institutionalized”. I brought him home and he literally FELL on his dad’s body with his whole body and cried like a baby. His clothes were dirty and smelled like a hog pen (pun intended). He knows we don’t allow drinking or any type of illegal activity. I asked him to go to preaching service with me at the 11 o’clock hour. He rejected at first, but he said, “I’ll do it for you, Mama.” I play the piano at our church, and last Sunday I turned around as I was playing and saw him walking in. I wanted to shout, but I kept my composure, but I was praising the Lord in my heart. He has a long way to go to come back to the Lord, however I encourage EVERYONE to read and digest this article. The ONLY way you can know how far in the hog pen to let a family member to go is to pray to the Master for guidance. Thank you for allowing me to make this long comment.

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    1. Thanks so much for responding Cindy. Many people need to read your testimony! It is the perfect example of managing a ‘prodigal’ situation with wisdom and love. I love the way you and your husband kept your ‘arms outstretched’ like the father in the bible. I pray in the name of Yeshua that he grow stronger in His relationship with God and his family. Be encouraged! Keep me posted on how well he is doing:-)


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