Jay was quiet…He did his job…He didn’t bother anyone, but when tense situations arose on the job people would notice tears in his eyes. His boss wasn’t a good people person. His management style was very controlling, coercive and lacked empathy.
People would notice that when the boss would get assertive with Jay they would notice a tear in his eye. They would even notice a tear in Jay’s eye when the boss would embarrass his co-workers.
It was no secret that Donald didn’t like Jay. He went around the office talking badly about Jay. He felt that Jay was a ‘crybaby’ and weak. “What kind of man keeps a tear in his eye so much?” He would look at him in disgust as he would tear up as the boss walked away.
One day Donald couldn’t take it anymore. He attacked Jay verbally in front of everyone… “Man what’s wrong with you?!” “What’s up with this crying?” I can’t stand weak men like you…crying all the ti…”
All of the sudden, Jay punched Donald so hard that Donald’s feet came off the ground. Jay knocked Donald ALL-THE-WAY-OUT! Of course, Jay lost his job.
What Donald didn’t know is that Jay was an ex MMA fighter. He was good too. One of the reasons he was so good is that he would use thoughts that made him angry as fuel for his fights. As Donald worked to repress that anger, he would often have tears in his eyes as he fought getting worked up.
Donald caught Jay on the wrong day. Donald didn’t know the story behind the tears in Jay’s eyes.
Be careful when you judge someone as weak. Be sensitive when you see someone with tears in their eyes. You never know the story behind those tears.
The shortest verse in the bible is John 11:35, “Jesus wept”. No one has more restraint than Jesus, to continue to share His love and withhold his wrath in spite of how we sometimes treat Him. Psalms 136 continually says it best… “His mercy endures forever!”
When you see someone with a tear in their eye, if you don’t know what to say, whisper a little prayer for them…think of the stories behind YOUR tears.