Relationships are complicated and difficult, even good ones. But as we all know some relationships can slip into the category of ‘abusive’. And, abusive doesn’t always mean physical abuse.
When someone takes advantage of someone else’s love and mistreats them verbally or emotionally, that’s abusive.
When someone loves you enough to allow you to hurt them over and over again while always willing to forgive and move forward as if nothing happened, that’s abusive.
Micah 7:19 (NKJV)
19 He will again have compassion on us,
And will subdue our iniquities. You will cast all [a]our sins
Into the depths of the sea.
Isaiah 43:25-26 (NKJV)
25 “I, even I, am He who blots out your transgressions for My own sake;
And I will not remember your sins.
26 Put Me in remembrance;
Let us contend together;
State your case, that you may be [a]acquitted.
That’s how powerful God’s loves is for us.
How many times have we abused Him verbally by taking His name in vain, or simply not giving it proper reverence and respect? Remember, YOU DON’T HAVE TO SAY “GD” TO TAKE GOD’S NAME IN VAIN…
How many times have we taken advantage of His love by promising we wouldn’t do something again, only to do it again…numerous times?
Psalm 103:10-14 (NKJV)
10 He has not dealt with us according to our sins,
Nor punished us according to our iniquities.
11 For as the heavens are high above the earth,
So great is His mercy toward those who fear Him;
12 As far as the east is from the west,
So far has He removed our transgressions from us.
13 As a father pities his children,
So the Lord pities those who fear Him.
14 For He [a]knows our frame;
He remembers that we are dust.
How many times have we hurt Him emotionally buy putting others and things before Him?
How many times have we provoked Him to jealously?
Psalm 78:58 (NKJV)
58 For they provoked Him to anger with their high places,
And moved Him to jealousy with their carved images.
How many times has He witnessed us committing spiritual adultery right in front of Him only to stand with His arms wide open welcoming us back into His love?
Notice how sometimes in the bible, God sounded almost like a hurt lover before He got angry at Israel’s sin…
Judges 2 (NKJV)
2 Then the Angel of the Lord came up from Gilgal to Bochim, and said: “I led you up from Egypt and brought you to the land of which I swore to your fathers; and I said, ‘I will never break My covenant with you. 2 And you shall make no [a]covenant with the inhabitants of this land; you shall tear down their altars.’ But you have not obeyed My voice. Why have you done this?
How many times have we put Him to open shame before His enemy and our adversary, choosing the devil over Him in our decisions.
How many times has the enemy had the same conversation with God about us that he had concerning Job? Have we always maintained God’s character through our trials?
Job 1:9-11 (NKJV)
9 So Satan answered the Lord and said, “Does Job fear God for nothing? 10 Have You not [a]made a hedge around him, around his household, and around all that he has on every side? You have blessed the work of his hands, and his possessions have increased in the land. 11 But now, stretch out Your hand and touch all that he has, and he will surely curse[b] You to Your face!”
How many times have we physically abused the Lord?
Isaiah 53:5 (NKJV)
5 But He was wounded[a] for our transgressions,
He was [b]bruised for our iniquities;
The chastisement for our peace was upon Him,
And by His stripes[c] we are healed.
Hebrews 6:4-6 (NKJV)
4 For it is impossible for those who were once enlightened, and have tasted the heavenly gift, and have become partakers of the Holy Spirit, 5 and have tasted the good word of God and the powers of the age to come, 6 [a]if they fall away, to renew them again to repentance, since they crucify again for themselves the Son of God, and put Him to an open shame.
Have you crucified Christ again today?
The fact is that if this were a marriage (and our relationship with Him actually is) many of us would have ended it a long time ago.
2 Corinthians 11:2 (NKJV)
2 For I am jealous for you with godly jealousy. For I have betrothed you to one husband, that I may present you as a chaste virgin to Christ.
Isaiah 54:5 (NKJV)
5 For your Maker is your husband,
The Lord of hosts is His name;
And your Redeemer is the Holy One of Israel;
He is called the God of the whole earth.
God loves us with a relentless love. He allows us to hurt Him over and over again. Quite frankly, that’s abuse.
Never take for granted God’s grace, mercy and faithfulness to us. He endures our ‘abuse’ every day and allows gives us brand new mercies every morning.
Lamentations 3:22-23 (NKJV)
22 Through the Lord’s mercies we are not consumed,
Because His compassions fail not.
23 They are new every morning;
Great is Your faithfulness.
The first thing we tell people in abusive relationships is to GET OUT! Aren’t you glad that God hasn’t gotten out of His relationship with you?
Hmm, well, his is a brave post and you made some good points!
I really believe this is a fabulous one to remember for relationships of all sorts, “He has not dealt with us according to our sins, Nor punished us according to our iniquities.”
Yes! His grace and mercy are so valuable.