“How could they do that to me?!”
“How could they say that to me?!”
I think we’ve all said it, and we’ve all done it.
How could you say that? How could you do that? I thought you loved me!
They do but…
One important thing to remember, as I often say, is that our love for one another is not perfect. God’s love is perfect, but ours isn’t.
We are all sometimes selfish, resentful, jealous, spiteful…we are all carnal sometimes….we all sometimes respond from our flesh first. And, quite frankly, we can’t help it if we aren’t walking in His Spirit…
16 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh. 17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish.
Sometimes we even recognize it and resist humbling ourselves to God’s will.
Have you ever gone to bed angry knowing what God says and still went to sleep without resolving?
Most of all, I think God allows situations to happen to let us see ‘what’s inside one another’ so we won’t allow our love for one another to come between our love for God.
I believe He puts ‘checks and balances’ in place to prevent us from worshiping those closest to us…our spouse’s, our children, our parents, our friends…our pastors.
Our arguments, disagreements…even betrayals don’t necessarily mean we don’t love one another, again, they just mean our love isn’t perfect.
That’s what makes it love…our ability to sustain strong relationships through these challeges.
God wants our love for one another to be strong enough to overcome moments of ‘not being able to stand one another’, as He does us…
Remember the Apostle Paul said, “Imitate me, just as I also imitate Christ.” ( 1 Corinthians 11:1) But, even Paul wasnt ALWAYS imitating Christ, and neither are we…no matter how anointed we may be.
The enemy even tries to use against one another, even when we don’t mean any harm. Look at what Jesus told Peter when he said Jesus should not be killed…
Matthew 16:23 (NKJV)
23 But He turned and said to Peter, “Get behind Me, Satan! You are an offense to Me, for you are not mindful of the things of men”
It’s obvious that Peter meant well.
There are times when we can mean well, but come between our loved ones and God. For example, I was told by a loved one that my blog would do better if I didn’t speak out against controversial topics like gay marriage, but I’m not going to compromise God for more readers. They meant well, but the enemy was trying to use them to influence me…and we’ve all done it.
So, the next time someone you really close to you says or does something so horrible that it makes you question their love, remember our love and relationships are far from perfect. Remember that we all are sometimes led by our flesh, and remember that sometimes God reminds us to always love and trust Him above all others.