God is very clear in His expectation that we honor our parents.
Ephesians 6:2-3 (NKJV)
2 “Honor your father and mother,” which is the first commandment with promise: 3 “that it may be well with you and you may live long on the earth.”
He made this commandment with no exceptions, stipulations or exemptions. God already knows that many parents are far (very far) from perfect. The fact is that most of the parents in the bible had huge character flaws and poor parenting skills…THE HUSBANDS, WIVES, PARENTS & CHILDREN IN THE BIBLE WERE MESSED UP TOO…
He even mentioned how some people used to pervert God’s commandment by trying to avoid it, most likely because they weren’t the best parents…
Mark 7:8-12 (NKJV)
8 For laying aside the commandment of God, you hold the tradition of men—[a]the washing of pitchers and cups, and many other such things you do.”
9 He said to them, “All too well you [b]reject the commandment of God, that you may keep your tradition. 10 For Moses said, ‘Honor your father and your mother’; and, ‘He who curses father or mother, let him be put to death.’ 11 But you say, ‘If a man says to his father or mother, “Whatever profit you might have received from me is Corban”—’ (that is, a gift to God), 12 then you no longer let him do anything for his father or his mother,
I’m by no means diminishing the fact that many parents are or were abusive and some even abandon their children.
But, why didn’t God say “EXCEPT THE ‘BAD’ PARENTS”?
Well, I feel the one reason God wants us to honor all parents is because whether they were good or bad…
The parents He gave us is who He chose to bring us into the world.
God chose our parents for a reason, and gave us His expectation. If they were bad, He will judge them, but He will also judge us if we don’t obey Him.