Not long ago I was watching my son hold his daughter as she fell asleep on him, and it filled my heart with love and joy.
I walked over and kissed her, then kissed him on top of His head.
It’s a shame that our Western culture has reduced strength and masculinity to fighting, aggression, retaliation, insults and a hard heart.
This is not just because of deadbeat dads, or absent fathers, but by ‘good’ fathers raising their sons with the expectation that men should be hard, and anything other than that is weakness.
But, that’s not how God loves us.
HERE’S 3 REASONS FATHERS SHOULD KISS THEIR SONS TOO
1. IT’S A PICTURE OF HOW GOD LOVES US
When the prodigal or wasteful son finally returned home, his father could care less about how his son had put him to open shame. He ran to meet his son and kissed him on the neck. This represents God’s unconditional and unfailing love for us. It gives us a picture of how our strong and ALL-POWERFUL God, can be gentle and kind enough to ‘kiss’ his children. It gives us an example that there is nothing weak, feminine, or ‘weird’ about a father kissing his adult son.
LUKE 15:20 (NKJV)
20 “And he arose and came to his father. But(A)when he was still a great way off, his father saw him and had compassion, and ran and fell on his neck and kissed him.
2. IT DEMONSTRATES THAT REAL LOVE IS NOT JUST EROTIC
Too many young men grow up thinking that you prove your manhood by being promiscuous. They learn to brag about their intimate encounters that are meant by God to only be between husband and wife (male and female). They learn a perverted view of real love and affection. When a father kisses his son, it teaches him that a kiss isn’t just a tool to get to a woman’s ‘goodies’, but a real, gentle expression of Godly love. It teaches them a kiss can be Holy.
1 Corinthians 16:20 (NKJV)
20 All the brethren greet you.
3. IT TEACHES ALL STRENGTH ISN’T AGGRESSION
Our society today is impressed with what they have been taught is strength. But, God teaches us that evidence, or Fruit, of His Spirit is behavior that many people in the world today consider to be weakness.
Galatians 5:22-23 (NKJV)
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, 23 gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law.
Notice that kindness and gentleness are proof that God lives inside of us through our Lord and Savior Yeshua the Messiah, Jesus Christ. God gives us an example of this with the Prodigal Son’s father. A gentle kiss from his father let him and everyone watching know how much he still loved his adult son.
It is our responsibility as fathers to let our sons know we love them as God loves us, and showing that love does not diminish their strength or masculinity.
Daddies shouldn’t only just kiss their daughters, but their sons too.