Before reading this, please read my article WHY SO-CALLED ‘WHITE GUILT’ IS A CALL TO REPENTANCE…

Every culture must acknowledge, admit and repent of the behavior that is displeasing to God and destructive to their subculture and society as a whole. Doing so does not let the other cultures ‘off the hook’, but ensures it’s own success in spite of what other cultures do, or don’t do.

Even though Black people (or African Americans if you prefer) are not culpable for the culture, heritage and legacy of slavery in America, there are many Black people who would not have been slaves had it not been for other Black people who in some way participated in their capture or sell.

Unfortunately that same counter-productive and dysfunctional behavior had become an accepted part of Black or African American culture today.


Even if the rest of America never…

Pays any attention to or participated in our protests….

Acknowledges our cries of systematic racism…

Takes down another statue or monument…

Awards another Oscar, Grammy, Golden Globe etc. to a well-deserving Black person…

Promotes another qualified Black employee…

Patronizes another Black business…

Elects another Black candidate…

Are WE going to continue…

Senselessly killing one another…

Selling drugs in our own community…

Undermining one another’s success for whatever reason (Crabs in a barrel)…

Complaining about ‘the man’ but becoming ‘the man’ to each other when we acquire influence…

Showing favoritism and internal racism based on skin tone in our own race…

Overlooking a more qualified Black candidate for someone in our fraternity or sorority…

Allowing our men to be emasculated…

Allowing our women to carry the weight of many of our families…

Requiring ‘payola’, gifts and predatory contracts to get access to the music industry…

Squandering the sacrifices of those who died for our freedom (Black, White and everyone else) equality, equity and civil rights by accepting mediocrity, complacency, apathy and turning our backs on the God of our salvation?

Remember, the NAACP, NEGRO LEAGUES,NATIONAL NEGRO COLLEGE FUND, BET and other entities were created because we weren’t included. Now that we are included more into society, many now say those organizations are racist…forgetting why they were created in the first place.

Maybe other cultures have gained more in society because they are as hungry as our grandparents and great grandparents used to be.

Maybe, without public outcries, they have quietly worked to prove their equality and value.

We must stop giving ammunition to those who oppose us by doing the same thing we are asking the majority to do…,

Acknowledge our cultural challenges and sins.

Work internally within our families, homes, churches and organizations to change our culture where needed.

To master Emotional Intelligence.

To become even more established in our relationship to God through Yeshua, the Messiah (Jesus Christ) who was not white and was worshipped by Black people long before most people in Europe.

Acts 8:26-27  (NKJV)

26 Now an angel of the Lord spoke to Philip, saying, “Arise and go toward the south along the road which goes down from Jerusalem to Gaza.” This is [a]desert. 27 So he arose and went. And behold, a man of Ethiopia, a eunuch of great authority under Candace the queen of the Ethiopians, who had charge of all her treasury, and had come to Jerusalem to worship,

Acts 2:5-11  (NKJV)

And there were dwelling in Jerusalem Jews, devout men, from every nation under heaven. And when this sound occurred, the multitude came together, and were confused, because everyone heard them speak in his own language. Then they were all amazed and marveled, saying to one another, “Look, are not all these who speak Galileans? And how is it that we hear, each in our own [a]language in which we were born? Parthians and Medes and Elamites, those dwelling in Mesopotamia, Judea and Cappadocia, Pontus and Asia, 10 Phrygia and Pamphylia, Egypt and the parts of Libya adjoining Cyrene, visitors from Rome, both Jews and proselytes, 11 Cretans and [b]Arabs—we hear them speaking in our own tongues the wonderful works of God.”

Acts 13:1  (KJV)

13 Now there were in the church that was at Antioch certain prophets and teachers; as Barnabas, and Simeon that was called Niger, and Lucius of Cyrene, and Manaen, which had been brought up with Herod the tetrarch, and Saul.

I know some people won’t like this, but if it provokes thought and dialogue, I’ve done my job.



I’ve heard and seen this so many times, verbally, on social media and in the comments of blog posts… Someone responds to a comment with , “DO. YOUR RESEARCH!”

The level of arrogance inferred and implied in that statement is amazing to the point it’s almost comical.

To tell someone “DO YOUR RESEARCH” implies three things…

  1. You assume that they haven’t already done their research.

2. You assume that your research is superior to theirs.

3. You assume that your sources are more credible.

People love to research, discover and present the FACTS that support their desired narrative. One of the things I learned after years as a Marketing Manager for a Fortune 500 company and years in the radio industry is that research, information and ‘facts’ can be manipulated to support a desired narrative.

This is why in a court case, you will find an ‘expert’ witness for both the prosecution and defense telling two different stories.

Of course, there are some sources that are more credible than others. However, filtering through our biases and perspectives is the real challenge.

Besides, my desired source is to study the word of God, and the history and culture necessary to put in all in proper context and perspective.

Remember, we represent God in how we reason with one another. If God has offered to ‘reason’ with us, then we should be willing to reason with one another with respect.

Isaiah 1:18  (NKJV)

18 “Come now, and let us reason together,”
Says the Lord,
“Though your sins are like scarlet,
They shall be as white as snow;
Though they are red like crimson,
They shall be as wool.



God is perfect and God is pure love, so that means pure love is perfect.

1 John 4:7 (NKJV)

7 Beloved, let us love one another, for love is of God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God.

But many times when relationships fail, when we hurt one another, or when we see the worst in human behavior, people will conclude that love has failed. When we look at someone that we consider to be pure evil, we can conclude, there’s not enough love in the world to help or save that person. When someone has betrayed us over and over and over and over again, we can conclude we don’t have ‘enough’ love to forgive them.

Yeshua (Jesus) said that in the last days because of the evil and wickedness in the world the love of many would ‘wax cold’, their hearts would begin to harden…

Matthew 24:12  (NIV)

12 Because of the increase of wickedness, the love of most will grow cold,

This is just a quick reminder that God’s love is perfect but ours isn’t.

God’s love is 24 karat gold…it’s pure. Our love varies from 1 karat to 23 karats, depending on the situation. Just because ‘gold’ isn’t 24 karat’s doesn’t mean it’s not gold. And, just because our love isn’t 24 karat, doesn’t mean it’s not love.

When our love has failed, it doesn’t mean there wasn’t ‘enough love to give, it just means we didn’t ‘give enough love’.

That’s the reason when people in a marriage or family hurt, betray, deny, embarrass, mistreat, and disrespect one another, it doesn’t mean they don’t love one another. It just means their love isn’t ‘pure’ ‘perfect’ or ‘mature’ enough. And, that’s a life long process.

Think about it like this. Ask yourself the following questions and fill in the blanks YES or NO.

Do I love God? __________

Have I ever hurt God?__________

Have I ever disobeyed God?_________

Have I ever embarrassed God?____________

Have I ever disrespected God?______________


Does that mean that you don’t love Him?__________________

1 Peter 4:8  (NKJV)

And above all things have fervent love for one another, for “love will cover a multitude of sins.”



Life can take people down many roads. As those roads are travelled sometimes people can find themselves in sinful or unhealthy relationships. It could be a spouse in an adulterous or a sinfully emotionally connected relationship. It could be a ‘boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. It could be a relationship with the ‘wrong crowd’ or with a person on your job. The bible tells us how we are to choose our relationships…

2 Corinthians 6:14  (NKJV)

14 Do not be unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For what [a]fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what [b]communion has light with darkness?

Now, that doesn’t mean we don’t interact with people who aren’t believers, but it does means we need to be very careful who we are in close relationship with. When two oxen are ‘yoked’ they are connected and one can’t move forward or turn without the other.

So many times people have tried to end an unholy relationship with a conversation, an explanation, a meeting, an encounter one last communication or connection for ‘closure’. But, what that actually does is draws them back in and keeps them connected.

Trying to end a wrong relationship or even help someone else when you aren’t strong enough can make you stumble…

Galatians 6:1 (NKJV)

6 Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.

Sinful relationships do not need closure. They ALWAYS need an abrupt end, no communication, no explanation…just STOP, immediately.



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