They didn’t see things your way?
How many times have you had an argument with _______________, and it was not resolved?
You still don’t agree?
They are still very much angry at you?
You still feel they are wrong?
Or, You may know that YOU are wrong?
Now is the time that you may want to buckle down in your anger. It is the foundation to a grudge and a wall in this ONE area of your relationship with _________________.
You may decide you aren’t going to speak to them. You may decide you aren’t going to listen to them. You may decide you are going to ignore them when they speak to you. You may decide to have a negative attitude towards them or be mean to them. You may decide to withhold affection and kindness from them….
There is a reason that God tells us…
Ephesians 4:26-27 (NKJV)
26 “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath, 27 nor give place to the devil.
Proverbs 29:11 (NKJV)
11 A fool vents all his feelings,[a]
But a wise man holds them back.
James 1:20 (NKJV)
20 for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God.
SO, BEFORE YOU BUCKLE DOWN IN YOUR ANGER, PLEASE STOP AND THINK ABOUT THIS…
Have you done something to make God angry?
Have you neglected doing something that God wants you to do?
Do you want God to buckle down in His anger towards you?
Do you want God to stop speaking to you? Do you want God to stop listening to you? Do you want God to start ignoring you? Do you want God to have a negative attitude towards you or be mean to you…
DO YOU WANT GOD TO WITHHOLD AFFECTION AND KINDNESS FROM YOU…FOR EVEN A BRIEF MOMENT?
NO! OF COURSE NOT!
So, the next time your anger burns hotter, cool it off with an act of kindness and love, especially if you don’t feel like it. That’s what makes it kindness and love!
Give them a hug. Do something small but kind for them, even if they don’t want you to. Let them have the last word.
Remember, giving someone the last word isn’t loosing an argument, it’s ending the argument.
Make it clear to them that you aren’t going to let your anger rule the situation. Make it clear to the devil that he cannot get a foothold through the situation.
Remember how long God remains angry at us…
Psalm 30:5 (NKJV)
5 For His anger is but for a moment,
His favor is for life;
Weeping may endure for a night,
But [a]joy comes in the morning.
To sum it up, make sure you have a forgiving heart quickly and let it go.
Ephesians 4:32 (NKJV)
32 And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you.
Luke 11:4 (NLT)
4 and forgive us our sins,
as we forgive those who sin against us.
And don’t let us yield to temptation.”
Remember, you never really hold a grudge, the grudge always holds you.