Let me first say that God never gives us a license to lie.
Wisdom and discernment are gifts of God. Discernment is an aspect of Godly wisdom.
We also know that the truth is always the truth, but we must be sensitive to God’s timing of when and how it should be revealed…of what we should say and of what we should not say…of what we should conceal and what we should reveal…but not for the sake of deception.
God protects us through wisdom and discernment…
Proverbs 4:5-6 (NKJV)
5 Get wisdom! Get understanding!
Do not forget, nor turn away from the words of my mouth.
6 Do not forsake her, and she will preserve you;
Love her, and she will keep you.
Yes, even the truth has to be handled with wisdom and discernment.
The spies that Joshua sent to Jericho were protected by Rahab’s deception…
Joshua 2:4-7 (NKJV)
4 Then the woman took the two men and hid them. So she said, “Yes, the men came to me, but I did not know where they were from. 5 And it happened as the gate was being shut, when it was dark, that the men went out. Where the men went I do not know; pursue them quickly, for you may overtake them.” 6 (But she had brought them up to the roof and hidden them with the stalks of flax, which she had laid in order on the roof.) 7 Then the men pursued them by the road to the Jordan, to the fords. And as soon as those who pursued them had gone out, they shut the gate.
As David fled from Saul, he was protected by pretending to be crazy…
1 Samuel 21:10-12 (NKJV)
10 Then David arose and fled that day from before Saul, and went to Achish the king of Gath. 11 And the servants of Achish said to him, “Is this not David the king of the land? Did they not sing of him to one another in dances, saying:
‘Saul has slain his thousands,
And David his ten thousands’?”[a]
12 Now David took these words to heart, and was very much afraid of Achish the king of Gath. 13 So he changed his behavior before them, pretended madness in their hands, scratched on the doors of the gate, and let his saliva fall down on his beard.
Mary could not reveal who her Holy Son really was until the time…
Luke 2:16-19 (NKJV)
16 And they came with haste and found Mary and Joseph, and the Babe lying in a manger. 17 Now when they had seen Him, they made widely[a] known the saying which was told them concerning this Child. 18 And all those who heard it marveled at those things which were told them by the shepherds. 19 But Mary KEPT ALL THESE THINGS and PONDERED them IN HER HEART.
Sometimes it’s best not to tell someone what was said about them…
Proverbs 17:9 (NKJV)
9 He who covers a transgression seeks love,
But he who repeats a matter separates friends.
Proverbs 11:13 (NKJV)
13 A talebearer reveals secrets,
But he who is of a faithful spirit conceals a matter.
Proverbs 25:2 (NKJV)
2 It is the glory of God to conceal a matter,
But the glory of kings is to search out a matter.
God gives us the wisdom and discernment to exercise emotional labor. Which is managing our feelings and emotions in order to effectively do a job – such as when a waiter or waitress can’t let his or her customer know how irritated they are at the customers’ rudeness.Sometimes you can’t tell your boss how you really feel about him/her.
Sometimes you can’t tell your spouse how you feel about his or her parents.
Sometimes you can’t let those closest to you how discouraged, depressed, upset, or tired you really are.
Sometimes it’s not the right time to let people know how disappointed you are in them.
Sometimes it’s not best to reveal what’s really on your mind.
In the last days…even God Himself will send ‘deception’ only to be recognized by those who are truly connected to Him and in His in His word.
2 Thessalonians 2:9-12 (NKJV)
9 The coming of the lawless one is according to the working of Satan, with all power, signs, and lying wonders, 10 and with all unrighteous deception among those who perish, because they did not receive the love of the truth, that they might be saved. 11 And for this reason GOD WILL SEND THEM STRONG DELUSION, THAT THEY SHOULD BELIEVE THE LIE, 12 that they all may be condemned who did not believe the truth but had pleasure in unrighteousness.
But, our Heavenly Father does use everything for His purpose, even how we manage the truth. We should always handle it with the spirit of discernment, not the spirit of deception.